Hey fellow Fapstronauts This is definitely not a spoiler Actually, I wasn't a GOT fan and I didn't even watch any episode until very recently. I started watching it and I got 'hooked'. Not because it's interesting or stuff like that, rather because of the sex scenes. I even caught myself a few times 'craving' for those scenes and fantasizing on some characters. I will definitely stop watching that, my journey is more important. Does anyone ever face such situations? What did you do about that? We can even widen the subject to every sex scenes in series, movies
Sure - I don't watch. I honestly don't see the difference between P and "mainstream" tv/movies with S scenes.
Then let me enlighten you. One is designed for nothing but to make you cum and the other is telling you a story where the sex is nothing but a tool to help make the story richer and more believable.
I disagree. I mean, yeah, obviously mainstream media is more focused on telling rich stories, but in the end - including such inappropriate scenes comes from a widely-popular and growing social mindset of cheapening and destroying all that is pure and intimate between two individuals, specifically married couples. If it sounds like some weird conspiracy theory - it's not. Both divorce rates and single-parenthood rates are rising because the whole concept of marriage purity is being trampled. "Oh, but stories are now more believable!" Please, is that really how you justify watching that trash? Is that how you justify watching more P and trashing your mind even more? Because the acting is better?
I'm not saying it should be taboo, I'm saying the approach has to be way more level-headed and respectful.
For starters, not making fun of it, as you say. Look, I'm Jewish. By us, matters of intimacy, called "Beino l'beina" - Hebrew for "between him and her", are discussed one-on-one or else in very small groups (3-5 people at most) - because you're actually right - larger groups can lead someone to becoming light-headed and light-hearted towards the matter. Smaller groups discuss it seriously.
I never really have problems with sex scenes in TV Movies and Games as the rest of the TV Movie or Game will distract me from the sex afterwards.
Gee, aren't you special! :O Don't have a problem with your believes and I'm not going to argue against them. Tradition is tradition. But if you want to talk generally about sex, portrayal of sex and sex talk in society, I would say making fun of it is important. Just because you make fun of it doesn't mean you take away your ability to have a special time with someone. It just means that you're not afraid of the subject. Sometimes we get too serious about sex which has bad consequences. Like jealousy, awkwardness during sex, fear of bad performance and disconnect with your partner. I've felt all of those things before and when I can make fun of myself or my partner or a specific sex act, it's liberating and brings us closer together. Laughing makes you relaxed and when you relax you give others around you permission to relax as well. It's a beautiful thing and sex should be a part of that imho.
I have PMO'ed to sex scenes from mainstream movies/TV series a lot more than I have to porn because those are a lot more realistic. Those are a bigger turn-on for me than those unrealistic/fake sexual acts we call porn. Now that I'm trying to heal from my addiction and aiming for a major streak, I avoid those as much as I can.
It's possible that shows like GoT etc are pushing for more realistic sex scenes because of the 'normalisation' of sex on screen caused by how much P is available and consumed by the average person. But I don't really have a problem with it because I don't think that it would be damaging to the average person. Even if they find it arousing and exciting, it won't result in them seeking out P and binging for hours on end. If you are an addict, like me, you have to make certain sacrifices (at least temporarily), and if GoT is a trigger for you, best to avoid it. You are unlikely to be able to see these scenes as neutral rather than P-substitutes for a while, just like an alcoholic is unlikely to be able to enjoy a half-glass of wine with lunch without it resulting in a binge. It'll come in time. But not yet. I am in favour of censorship/banning of porn, but I don't want a return to a Victorian/early 20th Century prudishness. I don't want to live in a society that bans Joyce/Lawrence, as ours used to, or even erotic films/TV, as great art can be made about sex just as much as any other subject.
After all I've seen, I'll stop watching GoT. For me, all the sex scenes are just triggers and my recovery worths more than a series. However, I do think that sex in mainstream medias isn't to be banned. We just have an addiction to some unhealthy sexual behaviors, sex isn't the problem. Moreover Sex is inherently something beautiful. We all just need to adjust our relationship with it