Can I have your honest opinion?

1) I’m doing quite well sometimes though there are moments that make me still think about. Moments such as seeing triggers or moments with free time and no idea how to spend it like in the morning when you’re in bed with your phone it’s too early to get up but also not asleep anymore. Other than that my addiction doesn’t play a big role anymore and I’m struggling with other things... work for instance.

2) I don’t know. Maybe having some one to talk to and who understands for anybody. Not limited to addiction but in a broader way including depression. Maybe finding something that really replaces it. I find myself spending too much time on nofap which is a weak addiction and often also unhealthy. I would love to find something that I could always do that brings me joy and is useful. Any ideas?

 

1) I think the biggest issue is feeling lonely sometimes, and the other used to happen weeks ago, wich was being aroused by anything, triggering a lot, I couldn't focus on something very well.

2) I wish I can find a new part-time job and I'm in a project in the university which I hope to learn more and more about things I like and intend to work with.

 

1) Sometimes not being able to see the bigger picture and lack of sexual activity/relief.

Spending a lot of time alone working towards my goals, the actual goals aren't always obvious in my head and don't seem realistic sometimes. I only the have the belief and sense in my head that keep me going for them. Porn is something that is easily available any time. It is like the opposite of my goals which can hinder my progress towards them.

Lack of sexual activity and relief due to quitting porn. I have my imagination, but it has been corrupted by porn and also fantasizing is harmful, unrealistic and asocial. There isn't a way for me to get any activity or relief without hindering or slowing down my recovery. I want to keep being on hard mode till my mind has been cleansed fully. The goal is to stop having pornographic dreams and fantasies basically; forgetting about porn. At times it can feel tough when I can't have any relief, but also often I feel very powerful and energetic.

2) I was going to say that I don't hope for anything, but actually it would be nice if I wouldn't have any wet dreams for the duration of my recovery.

 

1) Identifying triggers because they have a lot of emotional issues, then comes the second problem, dealing with all my hidden feelings one by one. Don't know when this torment will end but I hope the day will come.

2) Defining my new me.

 

1. Loneliness, because I ve been an addict for almost 10 years. You can imagine how 10 years(very long period of time) can do to you. I NEVER made a healithy relationship wether with males or females because all I wanted is to PMO I never cared about anything in life. Now I'm struggling to go out and make relationships because of that feeling of "Not good enough" and being insecure and cannot stand out for myself!

2. I wish I just become assertive and likable and being able to fear NOTHING. Secondly, PMO made me completely lost I have many things I wish I could do, nevertheless, I don't know what I should be doing in life!

 

Hi James,

1) 2 issues: 1 - a pattern in my mind that links weed with porn, the two have been linked for so long it takes real conscious thought to avoid one leading to the other and 2 - using porn as a default for masturbation, there are clearly other ways!

2) My one wish would be for porn not to be so appealing to me. I don't mind the fact that it exists