NoFap Failure :-(

I really feel for you, brother. This thing is not easy. But I have to say...30 hours?! C'mon. You can do better than that. You ARE better than that. Setting your next goal at 48 is not much better. This should at least be a 30 day, one month challenge. Set your goals higher. Shoot for a week maybe?

PMO is not a toy. I know we all have treated it as such in the past, but those days are gone. You have to throw your toy away. You cannot put it on a shelf so you can pick it up again later.

William here on the forum likes to put it this way (and I agree with him) - there are two kinds of people on this forum, those who are trying to quit, and those that ARE quit.

Those that try to quit are trying to control their addiction, supress it, and keep their P on a shelf for when they 'really need it.' We all know that this thing is uncontrollable. Thats why we're here, right? Stop trying to control it and just quit.

Those who have quit have thrown their P out of the house and no longer see it as a way to escape whatever it is they're escaping. They realize that there are triggers that pull them back into P, and they learn how to minimize those triggers. They learn that they are most susceptible to PMO when they're bored, lonely, angry, etc., so they stay busy and recognize these situations (and run into them, face them, instead of turning to P).

I am in the latter group. I no longer use P as an escape from real life. It isn't easy. And I no longer listen to my brain rationalizing why I can still use P and control it.

"I'm tired but I cant sleep, I have to pick up PMO, but just this once."

"I've made it a whole week! All I expected was 48 hours, so I can just pick up PMO for today and I'll shoot for a month this time..."

"My balls ache so I have to MO for health reasons."

"I'll just watch a little P and M for a bit, but I wont O, so I wont have to reset."

No. No. No. No. Stop it. Stop making excuses. Its over. You're here to put it away, so put the damn thing in the trash where it belongs. Throw it out.

 

Maybe you just need to be honest with your GF about your NoFap goal and that bec of that, certain things shouldn't be gone into in detail like that. Like, you need to be mature enough if you have a GF to talk about these kinds of things if you want to have a good, godly relationship. Let her know how much you love her and how glad you are that she is turned on by you, etc., but if you both have the goal of sexual purity, to only way to walk in that faithfully is to be honest with each other about what types of things you need to avoid doing or talking about to help keep your minds (and hands, ha) in the right place. That's not being weak or a wuss, that's being honest and mature, and being the spiritual leader in the relationship. If she doesn't respect you for that, then she's not the right one for you.

 

I would suggest changing the goal on your tracker to reflect your current goal, btw.

I found keeping an eye on my tracker really helpful in the beginning. I set it to 30 days at first and it was nicr to see threr green bar jump every day! Now it's at 45, next will be 90. My ultimate goal is to be PMO free forever, but looking at that on the tracker would be incredibly depressing and might seem impossible.

Try setting yours to 7 days maybe, then up it to 15 or something after that.

Good luck!