Don't focus on the failure of the day man. Focus on your wins. Every night. Write down some wins you had. Don't just keep trying the same thing,, realize that it's a process and it takes time. Read up on recovery. Find proven methods. Life is good man.
We can't change the past but we can change the present. Focus on your strategies and techniques. Keep improving and never give up
For me. I start my day most times around 5am. I may still be in bed for a while but i turn on the light, which helps to wake me up. I pray, do my devotional, hymnal and then i come online. Check mails and nofap. This can take a while and since i have to leave my house around 7, i usually dont have enough time, and i cant be late, so i rarely have thoughts to indulge pmo in the mornings. I am usually at work till i get home around 6pm or 7pm. Throughtout that time, i dont charge my phone, so by the time am home my battery is too low to really go online and to do any mindless browsing. So since my battery is low, i cant pmo. Also, i do not use my laptop as from 7pm. Any thing i have to do i can do with my phone. So by the time am home its already past my laptop time, so i have to do other things to keep me busy, like workouts. As from 8, i go to the living room to spend time with my nephew and neice, till 9pm. By that time i am tired. My next step when i get to my room is to do my bible study, and since reading makes me sleepy, 70% of the time i doze off as soon as i am done. My day is usually full. So i rarely have time think or indulge porn. My relapse the previous night was because, i chose to watch a movie on my phone, after 7pm while i was eating. Even though it was against my strategy, but i lied to myself that it was to ebtertain myself while i was eating, and technically its my phone not my laptop. By the time i was done eating, i felt i should just finish the movie in my room, rather than go stay with my llrelatives. Well you know how it goes from there. Sorry for the long epistle.
Day 3/30 Today I've been alone at home, depressed, PMO seemed unoavoidable for me. However, I said to myself: 'Before u relapse, go to NoFap and tell your community friends that u cancel the challenge'. I was already typing a withdrawal post, then I wanted to justify it with some arguments. However, I found no logical arguments to justify PMO, because there are none!! It's just a compulsive urge, that your rational brain needs to deny. So, before u relapse, make a post in this thread, where u say u cancel the challenge, then try to justify it. I'm sure u'll come to the same conclusion. Even if u don't, u may have a bigger chance at the 2nd try. Everyone posts about relapses after they do PMO, and not before.
day 4 done. i need to be careful now and concentrate. i usually relapse around day 5. either suffer the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret.