Robo, you´ve been relapsing consistely on every last days, take it easy bro, relax. try some workouts, meditation, relaxation, and check your mindset "why do i want to break free from porn addiction?" then when you feel ready start the reboot. it seems you want to get in the nofap train as soon as possible, but that impulsivess is only good for the addiction, think about it.
good decision. in fact i would recommend making peace as soon as possible with your wife. the more time passes, the more likely for new problems to pop up in the relation. so the ambient gets uglier. you suffer, she suffers, no one wins.
frustration comes from resistance to "what is". accept "what is", or change "what is". you´re not a victim, it´s your attitude that matters. go bro, much love.
try tea, barley or even sleeping pills. also avoid screens in the last hours of the day because they can cause dry eyes and make it harder to sleep.