damn february just has 28 days thats why I just have 16 days nofap, oh man thought I have already more.. tbh I am really proud of you know EVERY SINGLE day, I tried before but quit after two days. This time it feels different, this time I want the challenge, I am relaxed about the consequences but also looking forward to them. hope I can do it at east until easter and then I dont want to have the old habit again: just being alone, watching porn, or having the same abusive old phantasys. I want to share my love, with another person (boys and girls) I like. lets see what will come..
You have a good mindset, i also have that mindset right now, dont let your guard down tho, its always in the 20s that i relapse, because i lose sight of my goals and ideals, hold them close.
thanks man, right now I resigned, I jerked off. Somehow I am disappointed about it. But it was already a long time for, the longest time NoFap ever! I felt completely lonely and was so empty, and also agressiv, now I feel somewhat better. Lets see when I will start nofap days again, maybe now, maybe never or later, don't know yet.. what about you..?
l relapsed last night to, but i wont let that stop me, its only a reset after all, so back to abstaining, this was just a bump in the road.
where do you come from..? so whats your goal? because I dont have an actual goal, I just realised that I didnt want to fuck anybody or to speak with anybody or to be friendly.. thats why I hoped for change with nofap. while beeing an fapstronaut yes it was true I was more interested in relatioships I was more present, I respected me and others or at least tried too. Now since one hour its all like before.. So I am wondering, how many days without faping is realistic. You know ther might be people who say aaa I am not doing it since three years.. yeah its possible but not realistic for me. after some weeks I get too frustrated too lonely, I am too much confrontated wih my loneliness and unableness in loving someone. to show my life to let it be. I am to anxious, dont know. I am working about it, that I get more hapy with others, but for now after 18 days I was so lonely I needed to fap. So whats the aim now? How many days no fapping. Do you want to do it every now and then just not so often, or do you have a goal that says a certain day or is it realistic for you to not do it all ( I guess not since yesterday.. ) I am also wondering what your ideas are since you are a memeber of this site since last year..
For me i joined nofap because my life was awful before, porn addiction, smoking addiction, extreme lazyness to the point where i could not even brush my teeth, no motivation to do anything, crippling social anxiety, very self conscious, and a pretty unpleasant person to be around. And since i started i have never been happier, or in a better place, i fail a lot, but i will not give up. About the topic of how realistic it is to always be abstaining, well to me i dont care how unrealistic it is, nofap has turned my life around so much, and while i fail i will never stop it, i think with every steak we have we are that much closer to freedom, so while i might fail and the journey might seem impossible, i will keep going despite there being no end in sight, i know if you seek the light you will eventually find it, you just have to keep walking and have faith, you will stumble a lot in the dark (relapse), but why should that stop you from getting up and keep walking?. So i dont think you should ask how realistic it is, but how bad do you want to walk in the light?, and how far are you willing to walk to find that light?, its easy to stay in the dark, but it takes courage, willingness, and a burning desire to walk in the light.
hm light is too abstract for me. I like darkness as well, maybe even more sometimes ok, now i get you, so you use the site to get more conscious, to not be that lazy anymore and not spending all your energy in fapping.. yeah thats also my plan. But I am wondering, was it bad now that i quit? maybe 20 days was as perfect as 30 days or 50 idk, its always the more the better. I had a good experience and I could see that I changed..But why try it again? After my 20 days I learnd that I was not able to do sth with my sexual energy. All possible people in my region stopped having contact with me because it was too exhausting for them, I was too frustrated. Thats maybe the reason why i jerked off, to have a more easy and happier life..
Trust me things get easier every day you start again, the first days are always hard after a relapse, but its just something you have to deal with. And yah your mostly right about me, i stopped because pmo was ruining my life, and also because i am a christian, and i hate letting God down and and making him sad.
because you fapped today.. but I am wondering because you are a girl.. is it the same like for us, that once you fapped its gone, you are not ambitious anymore to relate to people sexually..?
I actually am not going to reset mine, while i messed up i do not feel like i failed, today i am more motivated than ever before, you only fail when you get into a looser mindset when you relapse and you binge pmo, i however will not let this set back stop me, time to step it up!!!.
oh fuck, yeah I just ..yeah your right I am also feeling great, but then you just did it once may I ask or is it for you as well that today is like celebration day so you are allowed to write shit to people to be lazy to have no discipline and to fap all day long or every time you want..haha
No i am not celebrating anything, that is reserved for when i reach a new accomplishment or i become free of pmo, also i do not write shit to people or promote lazyness, thats just unproductive and stupid, and i dont know anyone who would want to fap all day on here, that is not what this site is for.
come on you get me! you can be motivated, because you had your little party in the night, so now you want to look forward again. i just did it now so I need some time to focus again. don't be so harsh!
on one hand you write you are messed up and on the other that you are more motivated than ever before.. so I dont get you
Not trying to be harsh, i just realize i have no time to be sad or to feel bad, i need to stay positive and push onward, i find that the farther along in your journey you are the less time you need to recover from a stumble, you only waste time the longer you stay down on the ground.
