Allright, I did it, big fuck up Today I was particularly lonely and alone, also I'm in the middle of a big flatline that seems to never end, so I opened Chromes incognito mode and started to look at what I missed in the past weeks, then after 5 minutes I closed it No touching, nothing, absolutely nothing, of couse I was immediatley turned on by it, but i didn't do anything - and yet i feel like I fucked up and completely destroyed 4 weeks of progress Did you guys ever fallen for the tentation?
Yes, I recently discovered that this was damaging my recovery. I quit masturbation but still watched porn occasionally. That was just keeping my addiction alive. I'd do exactly what you did, search for something, take a peek and then leave right away. Then do it again a few weeks later. There's a page on this on yourbrainonporn.com. Here: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/reb...ong-abstinence-with-binges-an-addiction-risk/
Exactly what happens to me. Verbatim. I am trying to be more diligent with meditation as that seems to help some.
That's a great article. I litterally became so much more addicted to porn after multiple failed streaks... it was awful. Now I've finally got myself up to a decent stream and have not even searched for, let alone watch P for the last 2 and a half weeks or so.
yes sir. i definately believe the nofap community overlooks this one. 'trying' to stop porn may be as dangerous, if not more dangerous, than simply continuing PMO use. for me it had a massive addiction effect. it needs to be a do or die situation really. quitting at the first try makes it much easier for people. i think if everyone knew how damaging relapsing is then it could have a profound effect on the number of people who end up relapsing.
If you dont touched yourself or ejaculated, is not a relapse to me. I sometimes watch stuff on Instagram by accident, or "accidentally" watch P for a minute, but that is far away to destroy weeks of progress. The liquid is still on your body so keep that streak up.
I am on day 7 tomorrow. Friday I did open up a porn site for about a minute. I stayed in the main page, so didn’t watch anything per se, didn’t touch, or start my typical process of PMO. But—I opened it. I set my counter to “meeting my personal goals”, since some said it was a relapse. I haven’t been on the site and browsed the rules enough to know if there is a right answer. I do think there is a difference between opening up P for a few mins to browse, and going on a full on PMO for a few hours. I wanted to be respectful of those who are abstaining based on the site, so that’s why I adjusted my counter.
All the time. But currently I can see the occasional pornographic image and not feel the need to go watch it. for me it's usually when i randomly remember a certain video that I loved then i feel the itch. but it sounds like you were good and didn't give in if anything i'd be patting myself on the back
If you do end up on pornhub or wherever, maybe try and force yourself to watch something that you might be repulsed by that might get you to just exit out. Although I have found so far when I go back and look at porn it is actually pretty repulsing in general, seeing the lack of passion and what not. Don't let it phase you, just keep on keeping on.
Thats how I relapsed. I allowed myself to think I needed porn to get horny so I would want to have sex with my GF. Wound up having sex with my hand.
Yes, I wouldn’t fight porn with porn. There are better tools besides forcing yourself to watch porn with the assumption you will be repulsed by it.
Theres a difference between a relapse and reset. But man. I've absolutely been there and it's just such a difficult thing to admit to yourself that you fucked up. Good for you. The #1 thing you gotta do now is not let that reset become a relapse because then begins the spiral downward. Don't beat yourself up too harshly either. All your progress isn't gone but cross that day off as a failure and move on. Don't think about it any more, don't justify looking again.
There is some truth to this. I say it's on a sliding scale with none of it optimal. However, full PMO is the worst. Something to be said for just the semen retention itself.
