Newbie Scot's Lad.. 4 Days and Counting :)

So, howdy guys.

Took up this challenge as the life of watching porn and jacking off nightly was becoming a habit that left me feeling totally underwhelmed, unfulfilled and weak. I'd love to have been able to stop for years but have been addicted to the urge.

Looking now at trigger points, I can see tiredness, boredom & stress as the main reasons for failing. Read a great article on here about how it becomes addictive and activates the brains reward and pleasue centre. And so the cycle continues.

Recently I have stated Transcendental Meditation, and for the past 4 days I have been using the power of taking a step back, and observing my thoughts and urges when they arise. This is easier said than done though as physical urges are very hard to contain. But now I see myself as no better than a smoking, drug or any type of addict as I have a behaviour that up to now I have no willpower to control.

Another thing I have started thinking about is what am I gaining from porn and masturbating. Trying to put myself in the perspective of how will I feel afterwards and what benefit will this have on my life. I am also using this with regards to eating sugar, another addiction of mine. Refined sugar and porn are two things my body craves but give no benefits to my life whatsoever. Even typing this now I am getting the urge for both but taking deep breaths and trying to let it pass.

4 days is what I have managed using these new philosophy's, and I just hope that I can keep this up, and keep you guys posted with some positive results.

Until next time..

SB

 

Thanks for the support my friend, it's great to know there are many like minded people out there trying to better themselves and the make positive shift of losing this behaviour from their lives.

I would deffo recommended you take a course in TM although it can be a bit expensive, really helps to observe thoughts and not become attached to them, have met people through doing it who say it has changed their lives.

All the best,
SB

 

Great to hear from you dude, seems like a lot of us are coming to the realisation that Fapping is not a habit we wish to have in our lives.

TM basically allows thoughts whilst repeating a mantra and focussing on that, makes you not give meaning to thoughts and see yourself as an observer. Best of luck anyway that's me 5 days + keep me posted on your progress!

 

That's me made it to a week. Yesterday was horrible was hungover and horny from the night before and I'll admit I was on the brink of giving in and blasting one out.. The only thing stopping me was that my WiFi connection wasn't working in my house and I cannot go on 18+ websites with 4G connection on my phone. Blessing in disguise or meant to be perhaps! ;D.

Well anyway let's hope I can continue, as long as I stay off porn I will be happy.. Hopefully I can get a woman to fulfil my natural sexual urges soon haha.

 

Nice to hear from a fellow Scotsman ✌️, I will admit it's getting difficult at times but just trying to keep myself busy & stay positive. It's like trying to beat any addiction keep me updated on your progress, logging your progress might help to keep you on track. As I say TM may be helping me you should perhaps look into something like that; a total shift in mindset and outlook, if your old / current mindset has been unsuccessful up till now.

 

That's me made it to 10 days . Had a real day of constant thoughts about sex etc, finished my work early & genuinely started to look through Gumtree for local massages in the hope that I would "innocently" go and get a happy ending. Even phoned a Cezch woman offering a service for £50. This was the exent of my thoughts today I didn't want to break my streak with PMO so had serious considerations about doing this.

Luckily I came to my senses and decided to go and play some golf and get active and take my mind off the urge. £50 heavier in the pocket also thankfully, really struggling to contain the feeling without an outlet though. Persevere I must .

Hope everyone is managing well.

 

That's me 15 days. No porn, but a quick glance at some scantily clad women earlier, but quickly turned off. I have been having real doubt about how healthy this can be but just ploughing on. Feeling good though, more in control of myself. Hope you's are all doing well. Had a quick rub of my junk a couple of times but to nowhere near completion. Having really vivid dreams about women, but not all sexual. Feeling better about myself.

Need to re focus but am feeling positve.

 

Howdy fellow NoFappers.

My journey began 19 days ago, when I finally saw that I had an addiction to this porn and jerking off every day habit. It forced me to make the leap and for 18 days I managed. I seem to have lost sight of why I started this and have lost my focus. I really started to ponder the health benefits of storing up all this tension and not fulfilling a natural urge of ejaculation.

So basically I whacked one off (with no porn) and it felt like a relief to let it go, but also a very big anti climax.

I have noticed old / negative habits returning today of being horny and basically leering at girls pictures on Facebook, and looking through websites with celeb nudity etc. This is not something I am not proud of, but it seems that I have lost my fight. I know it will return and I will definitely be starting afresh soon..

I felt good and powerful knowing that I was in control of myself and urges whilst doing the challenge, giving me a feeling of confidence.

Really I need to sort my head out again and start meditating, as I didn't do this for the week leading up to my "relapse". Just goes to show that I was taking it for granted how much it was actually helping me.

Well until next time, I am now 1 day back on the wagon again & lets hope I can hold on for the ride and stay controlled and focused this time.

P.s I have been maintaining the habit of cold showers, so let's end this on a positve. The idea of doing them came through here, and I have been enjoying the challenge of forcing myself into taking them most days.

SB