Day 50: Not Satisfied!

Have you tried turning it off and on again .. i mean exercising?

 

Hi Wannabe_NoFapper,

Stopping the external behaviour of PMO and edging is a good place to start, but that alone is not enough. I found from my own experience that I have to really watch my internal behaviour. What this means is not getting caught up in fantasies or inappropriate thoughts. Having a very strong motivation is essential to break away from thoughts about P and fantasies. In my case I clearly realized the harm P has caused myself and how it had caused me to behave inappropriately towards others. I realized that thinking about P and fantasizing went against my conscience. When this became clear, I had the motivation to break free. When I was able to make progress I gained confidence and things became easier, and now I feel much more free. At first it is hard to break away from the negative thoughts, but as you continue the negative thoughts have less pull. I'd suggest not focusing too much on severing ties with the thoughts about P, but instead focus on strengthening your motivation. That way it becomes a positive process instead of a negative one. Instead of always thinking "I am doing something wrong", put the focus on the right thing to do - for example, "I want to be more sincere, I can be better." This way you can encourage yourself without being overly critical of yourself. Hopefully this approach will be helpful in freeing yourself from sexual addiction.

Wishing you all the best!

 

First of all, you impress me. If you managed to go on a 50 days streak while having constant urges, well you have a hell of a willpower, my friend.

Now, maybe you're having a hard time with the challenge because you haven't modified your thinking habits enough, and now they're conflicting with your abstaining behavior.
You did a great job so far, now maybe you should get on the psychological training, learn how to channel, control or suppress those urges.
The simplest way is to focus on something else. The more often you're distracted from porn or inopportune sexual arousal, the less likely you'll be to experience those thoughts in the future. It should make your challenge go smoother

A few options are exercising (you'll get both the distraction and physical exhaustion), studying, getting sucked in a book, film or video game (whatever works best).
I can't recommend meditation enough, it calms you down, and teaches you how to recognise your negative mind patterns (anger, stress, urges), and reduce their intensity. It's a wonderful tool to achieve well-being for everyone, it's even more useful when you're experiencing stress from fighting an addiction.

Hope you find this useful, I wish you much progress and good luck.
Keep it up

 

That was just a meme kind of thing. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nn2FB1P_Mn8)

 

This is a startling revelation. I think if we "trick" our brains so to speak by turning on our counters and then starting them over again, gives us the opportunity to rethink our position in our challenge and whether or not we want to continue on with it. For instance, last night I looked at porn but am feeling a bit depressed and angry that I have to reset my counter. This could actually be a good thing since I am reinforcing my brain to say "we have to do this no matter what". In the process I think I am getting stronger. not that we should relapse just so we can reset our counters. That would be counterintuitive. Instead, I think if we've been on a long streak...like over 90 days, we should just reset our counters and go back to square one thinking that we've failed. This would then trick our brain to try harder and continue fighting on as if we had lost the battle, but have already won. Does this make sense?

 

I doubt you can trick your mind into thinking you failed. If you should actually manage, you may be in danger of binging because of it xD