The 2019 X90 Hard Mode High Accountability Elimination Challenge

Where does this feeling of not wanting to be alone stem from? Maybe some childhood memories of being abandoned/neglected/ignored? If yes, then this is your inner child acting out - he is afraid of this feeling because it is too much for him but it is not too much for your true self who is now a grown-up man. You should work with that. Maybe this helps.

 

Well that's great, thank you for describing everything, now I can't sit still on my chair at work and started feeling sorry for not meeting my ex that week when he was free the whole weekend - would have been similar end of the story. But no, I'm proud that I did not do anything with a married man and yes, I really want to achieve my 90 day goal.

 

Hmm so maybe choose another form of media which is "safer" for you - watch a DVD for ex and stay away from electronics? The key is flexibility, you have to tame the mind. If it wants some entertainment - offer it some but within safe limits. The brain might be panicking because you like prohibit media for it altogether, try be more flexible with that.
Regarding overeating - if you overeat because you had hardly time to eat during the day - there's nothing to be ashamed of, body needs food, if it's more emotional eating - you should ditch diets, resume regular and balanced (I didnt say super healthy - extremes are not good) meals and then sit and think what other coping skills you could resort to when you want to overeat (but there is no physical hunger) or when you want to stimulate yourself with entertainment.

 

In fact I have done it (had sex with him) a few times in the past while still married and I think PMO played some role in that too. So that's why I want to clear my head of all this shit and live my life differently. I think that sometimes guys assume that girls are not that triggered or not aroused at all, they hardly have any physiological desire for release or any genitals which they like to stimulate while watching some visual material, and that, all in all, everything is SPAM REMOVED (spam code #001) - REPORT TO MODERATION for them. No it is not! I even read on NoFap today that women tend to look for romance and plot in porn and they do not need to be aroused straight away, wtf?! The fact that we do not talk about things does not mean that they do not exist. I was really triggered today and is easy for you to give advice now as you don't feel as horny as I am now, actually, not now but the whole day. I will stop now because I feel I'm getting too emotional.

 

Hi fleurette,

Thanks for explaining it like this, it's very helpful. I know women are turned on visually like men, I've seen it, witnessed it. I see it in my relationship (because I'm such a stud HAHA).

There are such stereotypes and beliefs that it becomes the normal thought that this is how things work. It's very misunderstood on this forum.

While we're under the influence of PMO, alot of our decisions about sex are influenced by that. That is what makes a relationship very difficult while retraining our brains. One of many things. If we went a year or 2 without pmo and without sex we could look back at our decisions alot more clearly and say, yes that influenced by my habits.

You're doing awesome here!! Keep up the great work!!

 

Awesome dude, keep it going !

 

Here are the totals for today day 35. Keep it going everyone !

@I_AM_AWESOME 35.00
@lolman123 34.50
@glnb8 33.00
@Equanimous_breathtoair 28.00
@Hammerhand2202 28.00
@Daniel1 26.50
@JustForTodayz 25.00
@rkim 13.00
@fleurette 25.00
@biokat 11.50

 

Hey Hammerhand2202, I created this challenge so that we could abstain from PMO not so much random sex. I don't endorse it especially if its a substitute for porn. I understand resetting your counter to meet your goals but for the challenge I didn't withhold any points, you didn't p, m nor o as a result of p+m.

And for the sake of the group please leave out the details of sexual acts or behaviors.

Thank you.

 

OK Daniel then I hope you tackle this addiction with full force and never look back!
Thanks for the scoreboard. I am planning to go this year without PMO and this will also be my second year without sex - I hope I will heal more or less after that, if I make it of course. Also, I decided I'll check in here later in the evenings and not be very active here as I need to work on my digital detox challenge. Plus my self-confidence strengthening program started so I will focus more on other things important for me. Stay strong group!