How would you define an addiction to the nofap webaite? I came here out of loneliness feelings since I stopped virtually all social media, Background I don't look at P anymore (at least not my definition of it: which is going to P websites). Sometimes normal everyday pictures arouse me like seeing a type face for example but not to the point of MO. I do M maybe once a month if I get a full load and it is distracting me by being full. My point is I like interacting with the nofap community and I get a thrill from seeing that someone replied to my chat or thread (please don't do it for the sake of it haha). Also there are juicy stories on here and I feel empathy for guys who have been through this stuff like I have (I was addicted in the past). So now where? I have started to make some good real life friends (i can only meet occassionally)but they are not available 24/7 like the nofap website is. Is anyone else addicted to the nofap website? What are you doing about it? Yes I could just ditch it, but I don't know a replacement. Perhaps it is innocuous? Oh and is anyone else scared that their significant other might see what is posted on here and freak out. Is. Sometimes I fall asleep reading this stuff and my partner might see even the word "nofap" one day lol
Yeah I can relate. Nowadays I'm a lot on this website. I don't play video games anymore, don't watch porn and try to avoid stupid meaningless social media like Youtube. I've lived a very lonely life for a few years now. I've been doing everything in my power to change that. And I've made good progress, but I'm still in a situation where I don't go out much. So I try to work on self improvement and spend time here. The thrill you're talking about is normal. I get that with every notification, whether it be a msg on my phone or an alert here. I think it's way better to spend time on here rather than on social media, and definitely better than to watch porn and masturbate.
Thanks so much. I feel better now. I thought it was just me! Any ideas on whether you want to change and do you have any possible healthier alternatives. Or is this it for you?
My life is all about change. But this is it for me, for now. I won't be on this website forever. I'm gradually making progress to a good life. There's nothing wrong with this website but honestly since I'm past my porn addiction and masturbation overall, I do want to start focusing on other things. Social life is all I'm after. I wasted a few years so I want to make up for them.
I agree I am on the same path as you. Last week I had a breakthrough because I was intentional about making friends and reigniting old friendships I'm so excited about it. After months of virtually nothing I met two new people, I met them.again yesterday with my partner. Someone else who had kept putting off meeting me again, actually invited me to their apartment. And an older friend came and met me with his new girl friend and we met at lunchtime during the week.as well. This was very encouraging
Reminds me of past dilemnas I had... When I stopped playing so much videos games. And when I stopped working so much. While I was still single. Suffering from loneliness. I had a great job, I owned my house. But I was sleeping under the starcase, in the basement, otherwise I was having panic attacks. I didn't know what was going on. But I noticed that when I did things with friends... it went away for weeks. So I started hobbies with friends (Bicycling, climbing). This in turn, made me more self-confident when dating. I think that leaving behind nofap and going forward with your new file can make sense. Unless you want to stay and help other people. It must not the goal in life, just something you do once in a while, because it brings you enjoyment. Remember that you did this to remove a distraction (P) from your life, because it was hindering you from enjoying certain things in life (Which I don't know what it is for you). Why did you stop P? Or M? For what reasons? If you stopped those, and replaced them with social medias, then socials medias will hinder you from what you truly are aiming for. wrote down your goals, what you want, improve etc. Can be easy to forget what the goal was. They migh change too, which is very normal. I would call that an internet addiction, or social media addiction. You said you came here out of loneliness feelings. You are coping with loneliness by going on nofap. You have those feelings because you don't go on other web sites. So you go on this web site instead. So, you did not really fix the issue at all. Nofap is just another website, social media. Where you can get help. It is no place to live though. If you stop P, M or whatever... you are just stopping doing something. That won't buy you anything if you don't replace it with something. So... you replace it with internet, social media, etc. You fill the void with something else. There is nothing wrong there when that new something that fills the gap is meaningful to your ideals you have of yourself. But social media, will not fix your loneliness. So as a result, you still feel bad, deep inside yourself. Examples, of instead of going to these sites you could: - improve your career - Meet new friends thru new hobbies - Study, so you have a dream career later on - Read on sexuality and sexual health, to fill that gap left by leaving P. Fill it with an healthy sexuality instead. - Date girls, be interested in them, what they like doing, career plans,ideals etc. This will help you get ideas too for yourself. Only you knows what they are(Albeit you might not be 100% conscious if they are). This is why it is sometimes hard to find our true ourselves.
Thanks for your input. I guess its like rock climbing, I got away from porn, then I moved up a ledge and got away from M, then I moved up and got still k on wechat for a while (I was hunting for friends but I found out it was rge wrong kind of friendship. I did meet people for real but it usually led to acting out if they were overseas webcam.) Then I quit that and ended up on the nofap website. I like talking to the people here. I can be myself. Then I found a bunch of new real life friends, however I can't meet them. That often, so I still have a void. Nofap website is filling that void for now, it is a safety ledge for now, but if I tarry here too long it will become unsafe and I will lose my grip and fall. I will try some of the other things u said. But the reality is, no one can be here available for me 24/7 except for God.
Only you and god are there 24/7. When you are lacking self-confidence, and/or you are taking care of yourself because you dont like yourself, then only god is there. He is always there believing in you, loving you, helping you love yourself.
That's great to hear. Don't forget about yourself. You are your best friend, the one you can always trust. This is something that I've learned from loneliness. Loneliness has been the greatest thing that has happened to me. I have dreaded it many times, but I always remind myself that I wouldn't be in this position if it wasn't for that. And all the things I've learned from being by myself have been something valuable that only few have realized. I would never change my life for anything, no objective greatness can match my experiences. Someone who has an objectively great life but hasn't gone through a hard journey to get there isn't worth envying over.
That is so true! I learned to like loneliness over time. Great fot resting, introspecting, and taking care of yourself.
