I have to keep my act together for at least the next 10 days, i need my focus. Also it seems setting smaller mile stones to achieve may be a better strategy since 90 days seems so far, it's like i'm not even in the forceable present, so a smaller would give me something to look forward to in a more outstanding way.. Maybe go from there.
Great plan. Small steps, then bigger steps. I still remember how good it felt to go without PMO for four days for the first time since early adolescence... Then a week, a month... 90 days is a long time, but I'm starting to believe it's doable. Especially with this community. Best of luck to you, friend. Here's to come comaraderie in hating this thing that we used to do...
I get it. I can't stand it. For a lot of my life it seems I got away with it. But my brain can no longer take it. When I PMO I lose focus and feel disconnected. There is too much going on in my life right now for it.
Just for today man, don't focus on anything but today. If that gets too hard just focus on making for one more hour. Those hours will turn into days...weeks...months...etc. Don't get overwhelmed by the future.
Thanks for all the comments, i really appreciate it. Good to know others can relate. I think it's been helpful to have this shorter goal, like yesterday and today i approached the discipline with an umph that cut the bullshit right from the start of fantasizing.
That's what I'm doing. First a week, the 30 days, the 60, then 90, and so on. I think it makes it feel more manageable.
Yeah man, I just had a reset after three days (I didn't know you could add hours initially, so my counter was missing something like 12 hours XD). I knew it wouldn't be easy, but it's still mad tougher than it looks. Still, not too discouraged since 3 days is probably a personal best since...2009! Nothing wrong with small steps, you know? Let's just keep getting back on the old horse together!
Ok almost in day 4. I'm always making sure the shit stops right at the beginning of fantasy, although now that i'm having partial success it seems my conscious attention to the fantasies rising up is slipping. Like as if i've arrived somewhere and it's ok to fantasize now.. I know that's exactly the attitude responsible for my other downfalls, so i know how serious it is and to take that attitude very seriously. Again thanks for the support. Wish you all the best of luck guys.
Going into the 5th day. I'm not sure if i'm having as much trouble with the urge as i am having trouble with the lack of taking this seriously. I would describe the problem above as 'loosing spirit', i need to be able to get it back and even better not loose it in the first place. But this loosing spirit thing I think is at the root of relapses for me, the main fight i have to win. In my mind i know that forgetful attitude is really detrimental but the problem is i don't feel that it is. My strategy to combat that is to remember how i felt 5 days ago when i started.
Day 8. Seeing the emergency no gap page has been really helpful so far, as well as having this soft term goal of 10 day. I really think setting a smaller goal was a good idea.
Having a kind of an emergency, have been hanging out with a friend visiting from Ukraine, a very horny dude who always wants to find girls. From hanging out with him i've unconsciously acquired some of his thinking habits and my mind is in non-stop fantasize mode. This is becoming a struggle. Maybe i'll try a cold shower.
I'm fucking pissed. Couldn't finish an interview question with a great company and i'm pretty sure i blew it now on my second phone screen with them. I'm just fucking pissed.
Congrats on reaching your first goal, dude. Keep your momentum and you'll do just fine reaching other milestones
Thanks kaldo for reading my posts. I'm having a weird mental state. It's like my spirit is broken right now. I was at a bar yesterday with large tv screens zooming into showing ass and vaginas everywhere. It all feels bad in some hard to explain way. Like i've already lost or something, so might as well cave in. I think i just need to keep feeling this nasty emotion and realize that it was allowing those fantasies last night at the bar which is making me feel this way.
Well, no need to purposely feel bad. I hope you'll get high spirit quite fast. NoFap challenge is a hard, but positive experience. Once you've realised that kind of place does no good to you and leaves you in a bad state of mind, you can move on and feel better. Just keep in mind not to get there again. Where you surprised to find such trigerring material there ? Or were you looking for it on purpose ? Don't beat yourself up if you were, but it's easier to move forward when you're considering your actions in an analytical way. So you avoid recreating circumstances that bring you down.
