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PMO on and off! Edging has caused me to relapse

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by EcnirpZim, Jan 7, 2019.

  1. EcnirpZim

    EcnirpZim Fapstronaut

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    Hi, guys all the way from South Africa here. NOFAP has been the greatest help for me last year. Thank you to the community members for the inspiring stories. (25-year-old guy). Porn and masturbation here are seen as a normal activity for young men. I have been at it since I was 17 and this presented PIED, ED and PE problems.

    I have been actively using the NoFap forum silently for a year now. Porn and Masturbation had created problems in my life. It pushed me to get hooked on cigarettes, alcohol, and cocaine. I started off by kicking my smoking and snotting habit which I successfully did for a year and a few months now. I decided to tackle my PMO addiction next. I was successful with quitting porn for 8 months. Next, I decided to tackle my masturbation habit. Previously I had a 32-day streak and in that time I felt all those benefits others spoke about, then a few days later got hit by the Chaser effect. Since then I have been on and off masturbation (i have been using condoms for my sessions as to help my dick get used to condoms). I would fap once every week.

    Recently I had just done 17 days until yesterday I started to edge. managed to fight it off but boy little did I know I had started a fire. Today I couldn't hold it in, I let my addiction side take over, I PMO to porn (used condom). But I didn't feel any remorse or negative feels, I simply looked at what caused me to fail this time. But during this course of quitting and having a handle over my urges, I have come to understand that the only way you can succeed in this endeavor is to learn from your mistakes. For me this is what I learned:
    1) DO NOT EDGE AT ALL! IF POSSIBLE DONT FANTASIZE
    2) 10 SECOND RULE HELPS WHEN FEELING THE URGE
    3) DONT BE HARD ON YOURSELF! TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME "Per Aspera ad Astra" -> "Through hardships, we reach the stars"
    4) STOP AND TAKE 10 LONG DEEP BREATHS
    5) It's A WAR! LEARN TO WIN ONE BATTLE AT A TIME
    6) TRY AND SPEND LESS TIME READING ABOUT NOFAP and ANY OTHER RELATED TOPIC. SOMEHOW WHEN YOUR BRAIN GETS EXPOSED TO TERMS LIKE("sex, porn, masturbation, girls, semen"), IT TENDS TO TRICK YOU INTO PMO.
    So today I decide to open an account here and start an accountability journal. I have found writing and sharing your journey helps.
    Today I m setting a new goal to achieve 30 days free of porn and masturbation. I m breaking it down into smaller goals of 7 days.
    Wish Me Luck
     
  2. control your life

    control your life Distinguished Fapstronaut

    Good luck to you fella !!
     
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  3. woodyplaysbass

    woodyplaysbass Fapstronaut

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    I can relate man, edging and fantasizing get me to relapse every time!
     
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  4. whatishappening???

    whatishappening??? Fapstronaut

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    I'm glad you said the part about fantasizing. It's the one thing I really need to remove from my life now. Take it from me, if you're fantasizing in the morning in bed then it's time to get up and start your day.
     
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  5. ReclaimedLife

    ReclaimedLife Fapstronaut

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    Good luck mate. Keep us updated
     
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  6. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut
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    Please be aware everyone... Edging IS a relapse in it's own right. When you edge, you need to reset your tracker to zero.
     
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  7. Mattew

    Mattew Fapstronaut

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    It's not that edging caused you to relapse, edging is a relapse.
     
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