Got a girlfriend. Want to know love.

Ok managed 140 days couple of months back. A woman asked my out and we hit it of great. We have both had problematic sex lives historically. We have agreed to date and spend time with one another as we both in the past had sex in relationships early on and it didn’t work out too well.

I can talk openly with her about stuff. We don’t want to do all the twisted porn stuffs anymore, we just want to have a loving relationship with loving sex. We want to make love. I don’t want to turn her into a cum bucket. We don’t want depravity anymore.

My question! I remember reading on this forum about a new(?) way of having a loving sexual relationship, it had a funny name like ‘zerrang’ it wasn’t that but something like that.

I have been working on myself for five years and I believe I have found someone who has a history similar to mine and we want the same thing. To love one another in a real meaning ful way. I hope someone can help.

 

That’s it thank you.

I hope you work it out with your life. I have found being really honest is the way forward. With honesty comes trust, without trust there can be be no love no matter how much you want to or how hard you try. God bless. Xx

 

I need to reset my tracker I’m about 10 days atm. I think by the time we come to have make love it will be close to 90’s. I’m not too fussed about the numbers it’s more about how I feel and what’s going on with me. Obviously the time away from nofap and the way I feel are linked. Since I have done the 140 days I have not returned to chronic masterbation though it felt like I was going that way shortly after the 140 days.

 

Interesting. We both believe in a higher power and have followed a 12 step program for other issues. What is that your suggesting, as in the mechanics?