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Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Trip, Jan 31, 2015.

  1. Jan 31, 2015 #1
    Trip

    Trip Fapstronaut

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    Hi!
    I joined this site because I need to reboot and I know myself, and I know that I'll probably give in pretty often, so I thought joining this site would help a lot. I'm a 16 year-old boy, I started masturbating at 11, which is pretty young I think. I was terrified the first time, and I felt like I had ruined my innocence. As I grew up, I started using porn more and more. Lol I actually started by searching "hot girls" on my psp in 7th grade. Once I got over my initial guilt of watching porn, I started searching dirtier and dirtier things, and worked my way up to watching full-on porn on my phone about 2 years ago.
    It was all fine and fun, but recently, probably 2-3 months ago, I started experiencing minor ED, and my already low confidence started dropping even more. One day I saw something on Facebook that said that fapping to porn can kill your libido, and I started looking into it on the internet a bit. I have no shame in watching porn, I'm only 16 and my girlfriend and I aren't going to have sex for at least a few years yet, if we're even still together, so there's nowhere else I can get that kind of sexual attention. I'm not religious, I don't see anything fundamentally wrong with masturbation or porn, so I'm guilt-free. If it weren't for the PIED, I wouldn't be here. But I've read that the recovery takes a long time, so I wanna start now before it becomes my girlfriends problem, too. I also don't wanna be so desensitized, and I want to be more easily aroused, so becoming a Fapstronaut seems like the best thing I can do right now. I'm a bit scared of the flatline, and I'm kinda scared of doing all this alone, so I'm really glad I found this community so I don't have to be alone :D
     
    Trip, Jan 31, 2015
    Trip, Jan 31, 2015
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  2. Feb 1, 2015 #2
    michgem0707

    michgem0707 Fapstronaut

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    I am glad you see what PMO can do to you. Over time it will completely kill your ability to have intercourse. You mind will want harder and harder porn to even get an erection. Set up ways to replace the temptations and urged when they attack. Believe me they will. Be stronger than the urges. Keep a journal and find all the ways you can to help.
    Prayers for you. Stay faithful to your girlfriend.
     
    michgem0707, Feb 1, 2015
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  3. Feb 1, 2015 #3
    KingColdTurkey

    KingColdTurkey Fapstronaut

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    Close to the beginning of this month I quit cold turkey - for good. After years of doing it on and off I discovered a few things.

    1. It won't be easy.
    I know that I will have to put in a real effort. The good news for me is that urges never last long.
    2. Failure can happen, but it's no excuse to let it happen.
    3. Developing strategies to avoid acting on the feeling can help
    These may be necessary to avoid watching porn, aside from destroying the habit. For example, you could install software to block yourself from watching it. When you get the urge, you can turn off your computer and go for a run. These can help.
    Here's my favourite strategy: go on the computer where other people can see you. You won't be tempted to look at pornography without the privacy :)
     
    KingColdTurkey, Feb 1, 2015
    KingColdTurkey, Feb 1, 2015
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  4. Feb 1, 2015 #4
    Trip

    Trip Fapstronaut

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    Thank you!
    Yeah, it's kinda weird to me though. For two years I've never had any problem, and it's come up so suddenly (no pun intended). It's especially concerning to me because of my age, but I guess I'm lucky that this didn't happen a few years later, so that I can fix this before it starts affecting my relationship with my girlfriend. I'll be faithful to my girlfriend, of course. Most of the time I MO fantasizing about her, but that's not much better than PMOing, so I'm stopping that, too. I'd never cheat on her, I find myself looking at other girls and fantasizing about them a lot, and I feel kinda guilty about it and I'm hoping this will help me stop that as well.
     
    Trip, Feb 1, 2015
    Trip, Feb 1, 2015
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