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Mixed Feelings?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Some Randomer, Jan 25, 2015.

  1. Jan 25, 2015 #1
    Some Randomer

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    Hey forum,

    So I met with a girl today. As a one off.
    I don't think I am gonna call this a relapse. I still havent watched porn or fantasized about porn.

    The event felt a bit off. On the surface it was all fine/enjoyable/whatever but I just can't shake this feeling that I will be set back by it. It all felt a bit mechanical. And some of the problems still plagued me (not very sensitive still).

    The chaser effect shouldn't bother me (it never has in the past).
    I am in this wierd limbo between thinking I should regret it and just not caring.

    I guess I am just looking for feedback that what I did wasn't too bad. Maybe it is a dopamine hangover I dunno.

    Any thoughts? Can't work this one out
     
    Some Randomer, Jan 25, 2015
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  2. Jan 25, 2015 #2
    Some Randomer

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    Anyone out there?
    Struggling tonight.
     
    Some Randomer, Jan 25, 2015
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  3. Jan 25, 2015 #3
    mustynasty

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    Hi Some Randomer,

    It's a little difficult to tell you what you should be feeling as I'm not sure what you're specific goals are and what you're hoping to achieve. But rest assured that if I knew those things I still wouldn't tell you! That's something that's personal to you and for you alone to decide upon. If you feel like you went against something that you were trying to achieve then fine, chalk it up as a failure and if you don't feel like that then don't think that way. Continue to take for yourself the way you want to live your life and judge yourself against your own standards, no one elses.

    Sorry for giving you nothing categorical but that's up to you, just as my own decisions, book-keeping, validations and failures are my own, and that's a good thing, it allows us to take power in our own existences.
     
    mustynasty, Jan 25, 2015
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  4. Jan 25, 2015 #4
    Some Randomer

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    Musty you could not have given a better answer.

    You are totally right, this is all for me to decide. Not any of you. It was silly of me to look for other people to tell me what is right and wrong!
     
    Some Randomer, Jan 25, 2015
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  5. Jan 25, 2015 #5
    Monster Carrot

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    I read your thread and was thinking, if you don't feel regret naturally, that's actually a good thing. Never try to regret something on purpose haha.
     
    Monster Carrot, Jan 25, 2015
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