Hey guys, I need some advice. I have a big cross dressing fetish that I’m trying to stop. Ive tried a lot of different things to try and stop it but it has never worked. The thrill of cross dressing stays as strong as ever. Now here is where I need advice. I recently came across a forum that said if you make crossdressing very commonplace the drive to do it will go away and then you’ll be able to stop. It made sense to me. So I have been trying it for the last two days; crossdressing whenever I can. But I added a twist that I won’t fap at all either. My thought process is that women’s clothing for me is tied in with masturbation and release. If I wear the clothing without sexual release maybe I can eliminate this fetish and stop cross dressing. I would love to hear some others’ thoughts on this and any other general advice would be appreciated. Thanks!
I would have to ask; does the drive to crossdress stem from anything beneficial to your, or anyone else's life? Does it provide any form of outlet for who you are as a person, your values, or your beliefs beside just what stimulates you sexually? I can't condemn you simply for having unique areas of attraction, as we all have our own inclinations. But in this process of breaking these addictions and habits, its important for us to note in ourselves the facets of our sexuality that are purely self-serving and excise them. If you truly wish to stop something, I see little argument as to how doing it more will 'break you out of it'. "Oh hey you're an alcoholic? Go drink til you can't see, you'll get bored of it soon enough!" I've learned to appreciate the Biblical wisdom; "..if your eye makes you stumble, tear it out and throw it away from you..". Beyond what anybody on this forum approves/disapproves of, If YOU want something out of your life, tear it off like a burning piece of clothing. I wish you the best, friend!
Look bud if you like cross dressing go for it own it but don’t fap be you pal ain’t nothing wrong with it
Well here goes, embarrassing to admit but hope I can help a fellow board member: For me I enjoyed wearing women’s underwear. I had quite a bit. It was all to help in getting continued sexual stimulation. Never got into the outer wear. You state plainly that you’re trying to stop. I wanted to stop and did so by throwing out my women’s undies and stockings. Then I made solid financial goals in order to have a specific direction to redirect those funds that would have been used to buy the women’s stuff. Hope that helps in some way.
Hey, thanks for the reply. I think I mostly do this as a sexual release. Now I completely understand where you are coming from when you say it doesn’t sound right that I feed my addiction by continuing to cross dress. But I have tried everything but that. I’ve thrown out the clothes, gave them away, and all the other stuff people do. Since this seems to be purely sexual for me, I thought it might help to do it as much as possible without masturbation so maybe I can detach these strong sexual urges and women’s clothing. Feel free to bash this idea if it sounds crazy, but I’m running out of ideas.
Hey thanks for admitting that. That sounds like a pretty solid plan. I might give that a try if this fails.
I know this thread is old so I will post this for others that have crossdressing fetish. It's sexual masochism disorder which is caused by low serotonin levels. See my profile for a thread on this or search "My cure for anxiety, femdom, findom, humiliation and sissy porn addiction".