De-stressing with PMO is a trap; don't turn to PMO to handles stresses and find comfort. It will only make it more difficult for you to engage with the problems that are causing you stress. Find another coping mechanism. Use your sexual energy to blast through the problems you are facing that cause the stress.
Yes. It’s easy to think you need to use PMO to get over stress. But once you finish. It feels much, much worse.
I just posted about my problem with this in the relapse section. It does feel much worse after you cave to pmo because of stress.
Great, now would be a good time to use that negative feeling to create a logical link within yourself that PMO does NOT = stress relief, ever, under any circumstance; I can't name one instance where I ultimately found relief from the stresses of my life by resorting to PMO. I'm pretty sure it can't be done.
I think my number one area of stumbling comes from turning to PMO from the stress of intense anger. Anger seems to cause a sort of black out. But once again, my bouts of anger never seem to be as bad as they are after relapse. That's the peculiar dynamic of the rationalizations that lead to PMO - PMO gives us the very opposite of what we seek to gain from it.
You could see PMO as a kind of comforting. long term Comfort is seldom good. For example: If you dress up so you never freeze, you will freeze easier on a chilly day. PMO is a way to cheat the stress system and it only backfires. I consider to do the opposite. When feel stressed you intentionally make sure you worsen the stress a bit (not too much).
