Achieve a long streak before considering marriage?

This is something that I plan to do in the future, but at the same time I am conflicted with actually starting the process, given my poor Nofap streak. On one hand, I feel like getting married will go a long way in filling what I've been longing for (and what made me turn to PMO in the first place). On the other, I cannot bear the guilt of relapsing while I am married.

Anyone who's planning to get married or already are have thought/gone through this? What advice can you give?

 

A preacher I knew years ago used to admonish young adults to never get married until they got porn out of their lives. As a preacher/counselor he had seen several marriages destroyed as a direct result of porn. One of those marriages was a close friend of his. So the issue was a very important one to him.

In addition, I’ve had several married men tell me that being married isn’t a solution to staying away from lust and porn. If one’s mind is out of control the wife just becomes another sexual play toy. Best to have that discipline before marriage.

That’s info I’ve heard and I believe it. I don’t want to get married until I’m free and clear of porn for a year or more.

 

Thank for sharing your story. That gives me hope

 

I probably wouldn't do NoFap if I wasn't married. I've always considered myself a "manly man" and been able to back it up. Though when the day came that I couldn't even get an erection with my wife at 28 I've never felt lower. Looking back it was definitely getting worse leading up to that day, though I just attributed it to shift work and lack of sleep. I wouldn't even blame my wife if she left me then or was getting some on the side. If she gave me the piss poor performances I gave her especially the year leading up I'd be considering things to.

Luckily my wife is awesome and supportive and I'm doing my best everyday to improve and get better for her. Marriage is serious and expensive, and divorce is even more expensive so don't get married so you'll stop fapping. Stop fapping so you can get married.