So I first joined around a month ago where I had just started a new relationship. Over this past month I did not masturbate and last night I did it once. During this whole month I couldn't have sex with her because she's a virgin and I'm waiting for her to be more comfortable with the whole process...instead I've been getting massive blue balls from the rubbing and touching we do together <=== doesn't this go against NoFap? Am I doing it wrong?
that doesn't go against NoFap at all from the sounds of it. simply don't fap. It is good that you are touching her and get turned on by her presence. You are programming your brain to be attracted to real girls, and this is probably the best way to do it.
No, this doesn't go against nofap directly, but yes it does indirectly. Hear me out. You know that she doesn't want sex, and you have to respect that. Unless you're a jerk, you're not going to pressure her for it either. But knowing that you're not going to get any, you're WILLINGLY allowing yourself to be immensely turned on and sexually primed by going to 2nd base (or 3rd, whatever). The thing is, especially for guys, once you leave 1st base, your body and brain are charged to go all the way home. The whole point of being turned on is to stay on until release. So KNOWING that you're going to be turned on, and that she will not be your release, you're making it really freaking hard (literally... ) on your nofap challenge because your next obvious option is mo or pmo. And obsrac is sorta wrong. You might think being turned on by girls as compared to porn/fantasy/etc. is a good thing, and hot damn it is. But this would happen naturally if you walked away from pmo. Our male bodies (for heterosexuals anyway) have a factory default setting to be turned on by females. PMO just supersedes and muffles this. Once the fog of false sexuality and all that shit is removed, real sexuality via females will remain. It's always been there, it's just being out shown and trumped by porn. So no, don't reset. But spend some time considering what's happening when you go that far with her. I suggest that while you're trying to complete your nofap challenge, you dial down the burners with her a bit, and limit physical interactions to those things that don't sexually juice you up so much. Many married people on nofap do this too. But Jalus, that's not easy to do. I understand, but you didn't come on nofap to do easy stuff.
