There's a lot of negativity about porn addiction here but is there anything positive that's come from having your addiction? For me, it's made me more compassionate. Before looking I became a PA I was so judgmental and self-righteous. I remember when I first heard of PA I laughed at them and thought to myself I how could anyone get addicted to pornography, I wasn't laughing when I realized I was addicted myself. PA taught me I was no better than anyone else. I admit sometimes I forgot my sins and start thinking badly of people who do immoral things but when I reflect I remember I'm no better than them.
Saved me money on ladies of the night. Saved me money going out since the majority of the time I was trying to get chatting with girls. Porn can drain you of the desire to do that thus saving money. Theoretically I could see someone avoiding std through porn. I guess we need to be honest and say there are positives and negatives to porn.
Well...obviously nothing good... It's like finding out what a drug addiction can do for you...nothing.
Well it's hard for me to believe there is a good side for porn addiction. Because it's not true. Porn addition helped me to escape reality but I know it's never been a permanent solution and eventually I had to face the problem that I tried to escape. I spent my time on porn , isolated from my family and social life. Now all I do is I wish I could change this life. May be starting a new life but no matter what I do I always end up in this same shit. For me I believe you are just making believe that porn addiction is good that's why you are asking for its good side. Cause once in my life I think the same way. But the reality is it's not and it's never give you a good life. My life would be different and beautiful if I never had this addiction
Porn itself was not at all positive but the recovery was profoundly transformative. It taught me all kinds of things about the brain and sexual conditioning, and, more importantly, that only deep emotion and love are satisfying. Shallow pleasures (material pleasures, wasteful diversions, animal lust) never satisfy anything, they only leave you more starved than before.
I think it's a case of whether your glass is half full or half empty. If we're honest porn addiction reveal things to us that we didn't know before.
I'm still a bit confused with this thread. Are we talking about the good things that came from PA before or after discovering that we had PA?
Looking at the positives is nothing more than justifying compulsive behavior. If I were to try and think of positive aspects, I would probably not want to stop using and just completely give into it.
Porn is damaging for any young guy out trying to have relationships. But can’t we imagine a scenario where someone is too old or ugly to get a hot chick just every now and again knocking one out and that not being such a big deal?
I don't like the notion that you have to get worse to get better. I would be in a better position then I am now after PA if I had never had my addiction. But I believe God uses all situations for the good of those who love him, and that growth can come out of all situations, so yes; some good things may have come out of this (like community) but I could have had all those and more without the draw backs of PMO if I never had PA! I'm messed up in ways now that will take me forever to recover from and will likely require me to be on guard most of my life!
It seems to me that its about perspective. I believe that theres some good somewhere: One other post mentioned that it kept them from infidelity. I suppose there is some truth to that. I believe that we have all read of folks on this site engaging in some really risky behavior. I guess that would be my only point. Also Im not really sure I could have done this in my 20's. I think that it was too intense and masturbation was just a release I needed. I did not have the temperament or will needed to abstain, which is funny because I have always had regular sex, I guess it just wasnt enouugh...lol
Because of porn, i found NoFap. Because of porn, i learn that I compulsively look for pleasures (and pain). Because of porn, i learnt that i repressed my emotions all my life. Because i’ve been in the darkness for so long, I surrendered to the light.
