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Should I go for it?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Some Randomer, Jan 11, 2015.

  1. Jan 11, 2015 #1
    Some Randomer

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    Sup NoFapeople

    So I am now in a position to have sex if I want to. I'll spare the details but I am pretty sure it is a sure thing if I want.

    The problem is I just don't know if I should be doing it at this stage (well it would be about 24days in to current streak when it would actually happen).
    There are lots of thoughts going around my head about it. Part of me says go for it, this is natural and what it is all about etc.
    Another part of me is hesitant, and wants to give it more time (the whole 90 days) before doing anything. A bit anxious about rewiring incorrectly. The chaser thing hasn't plagued me when I did relapse. I hope it would be a completely different experience with a real person anyway.

    I PMO'd twice since I started something like 50 days ago, I have reset my streak each time. I can't tell/dont care if they were really full resets. As I said, the whole "chaser" thing didn't happen.

    Also, I am not fantasizing about porn at all. No flashbacks, very few cravings. At the same time, I am feeling what I assume are natural desires and urges about real people. This is a positive step!

    Was hoping to get some advice on this. If I am not fantasizing about P but real things, it is like my head is telling me what it wants now. Do I do it?

    Regards,
    Some Randomer
     
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  2. Jan 11, 2015 #2
    Vandal_Savage

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    It's good that your are having these instincts. This means that your are starting to see the value in your sperm. Hopefully, you have noticed that that stuff makes you more awesome. Females are naturally attracted to it. Now you have to ask yourself, is she worth giving up some of your important seed. Or think of it like, if I mistakenly got her pregnant, is she worth carrying my child/ being my wife. That's how serious you have to think of your sperm if you want to make this journey to be the most effective.
     
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  3. Jan 11, 2015 #3
    Caveat Emptor

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    Like Vandal said, if you think she's worth it, you should go for it.
    But if you don't think you would be able to perform, tell her something like you really want her but feel like you should wait a little bit and get to know her better.
    But beware, because you don't know how long she'll be willing to wait. It's kind of a risk-reward game.
     
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  4. Jan 11, 2015 #4
    Some Randomer

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    Damn vandal that is heavy! Really haven't thought that seriously into it hah. At this point I just wanna have a bit of fun. I'm young, not looking for a wife or kids. But yea I like the girl :)
     
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  5. Jan 11, 2015 #5
    Reece83

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    I feel the same way! These are definitely positive steps. I've been done with PMO for what seems like a while now, porn too. I only fapped twice since my stand, and at the time my head seemed to be in the right place. My mind and body feel like they're back to a more natural state, but I don't believe my problem was as severe as others. It was fairly easy for me to give up porn and fapping to it because I've done it before, hence the reason why I feel that I'm recovering a lot quicker. I think you should go for it man, but continue to stay the course.
     
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  6. Jan 11, 2015 #6
    Some Randomer

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    Not too worried about performance. I'm actually really curious to see if there is any issue still.
    Yea I reckon I can't make someone wait 3 months; it's fine if she moves on I don't actually care!
     
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  7. Jan 11, 2015 #7
    Some Randomer

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    Thanks for the input Reece. I am definitely not going back to regular/any PMO if possible. In the same way, I have no idea how I went so long without regular exercise. Fingers crossed, the habit is broken and a new beneficial one (exercise) has replaced it.
     
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  8. Jan 11, 2015 #8
    Vandal_Savage

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    haha yea I figured, that's why I put the word 'mistakenly'. Just keep it in the back of your mind. If you had to, would you be okay bringing this girl around your friends and family. I'm not coming from a moral standpoint or anything. Your probably join to feel like crap wasting your stuff on some slut.
     
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  9. Jan 11, 2015 #9
    Some Randomer

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    Ah ok I get it, and that is a good question to ask. *Luckily the answer is yes, without even hesitating on it. Not that I really want to be public with friends and family, but that is just my nature :p
    She definitely isn't just some slut, no problem there!
     
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