I have a very strong urge. What's the best thing to do?

The edging doesn't really help.
Just take a long break from pornography, fantasies, masturbating and sex and see how you feel in time.
Fill the time with more positive habits. And keep reading various forums.
Go for it!

 

Meditate, excercise, journal, talk with someone about it.

Do all of this until the urge goes away. Then when the urge is gone do these things daily to prevent further cravings.

Also, I recommend doing SAA meeting and working the 12 steps, and getting a therapist cuz it can get pretty emotional once we start dealing with the issues which cause us to relapse on PMO.

After that being rigorously honest I ca daily basis about your PMO urges and also your emotional distress. We tend to stop talking about our problems and go back to keeping things in our head. When we do this they get bigger than they really are, so constantly discussing this stuff with others really helps. Do this daily as often as possible. I do this with nofap friends, SAA friends and my mom and dad. Of course nofap and SAA people can also hear about my PMO problems and my parents can hear about everything else

This is what I’ve been doing daily to remain sober.

Also NO TOUCHING! I only touch my penis to readjust in the middle of the night, to pee and to shower. Never any other time. Building a new relationship to your sexual organs will help. My penis is no longer the center of my life. It’s more like my elbow or pinky toe in terms of importance.

 

NEVER EDGE! You will end up relapsing eventually and it makes it SO much harder to do NoFap. In my experience the absolute best thing you can do is take a cold shower. I mean as cold as it gets. I've taken three now and at first I let the water get gradually colder, but the second time and today I just got in the shower with pure cold water running. Holy fuck it's hard, but it's worth it man. It's a discipline and it will completely kill your urges and you'll come out feeling like a boss. The thing is, when you're in the moment there's not much that can save you I'm afraid. If the addiction is too strong then it will just overwhelm your frontal lobe and you'll end up relapsing, only to finish and be completely ashamed of yourself and be back at square one. I'm not saying that you can't stop once you're watching porn and edging, but it is INSANELY hard to stop. Trust me.

I've relapsed so many times and I always ended up going all the way when I was in the moment. Only recently have I been able to stop myself while watching a video of a sexual nature. In the past there just was no stopping it. I honestly believe that it takes a certain number of relapses before you're absolutely sick of doing this shit to yourself. The shame from a relapse is actually good and it's necessary, at least in my opinion. It will keep you from relapsing in the future. It's the main reason why I haven't relapsed here lately. That and the benefits of Nofap, no depression, anxiety is gone, better eye contact, more confidence, better erections, etc. The last time I relapsed I swear I felt like I could break down and cry like a baby. It was that bad. I guess I just reached my limit and I'm tired of doing this to myself.

Anyway, I believe cold showers are the best thing for urges. Mediation helps, lift some weights/exercise, anything to distract yourself. You should make a game plan so you can be prepared for the urges. Great advice from Noah Church. Be prepared for when the moment strikes because it will happen sooner or later. If you're not prepared, you will relapse. Good luck buddy.

 

I usually work out like fast mode and I do a lot of reps for my workout to build muscle. Because I stopped on my routine and now I need to regain my muscle growth back. One of the most amazing things I love to do is to work out and build muscle. Also, try being interested in a few meditations on youtube like TheHonestGuys, Michael Sealey, and a few channels like YellowBrickCinema. I have tried them all and they work amazing, they not only help me sleep better at night, but I wake up in the morning feeling refreshed and full of energy. I also do intense work out with my equipment in my room to distract my strong jedi urges and I started to read a lot of information online about dieting and exercise. I have been on Youtube for about a year and I just joined this website yesterday. Also, I have been practicing meditative videos for over a year and they helped me develop a passion for art galleries. Good luck.

 

Exercise man.. You will be more conscious and you ll receive more power.
Educate yourself about the ill effects of this evil habit..
Remember, how many times have you said, this is going to be last time....???
Just remember, how did you feel after you did it?
Guilt, agony, pain(physical, mental, psychological), shame, dullness, fear,
no motivation to do things.. Negative emotions...
Ask yourself, do you need these things for just few moments of illusional pleasure???
NO, YOU DONT NEED IT... Thats why you are here!!
Believe that you can win,, and you are here to win, along with others!!

 

Just remember that the urge is Temporary moment, so if u pass this moment i am Recommend to write this urge and the feeling at this momment.

why? for the next time when you got another urge,jhst chack agin when u got hard time, and u get over it.

 

I just stay away from using my computer, i never get tempted to look at porn on my phone which is good

 

What does Edging mean?

 

Masturbation without ejaculating

 

Yeah men, i do it when i start nofab,