Strong urges after a relapse!

Hi, i know what you are facing. I made the same thing, set the porn blocker and then uninstalled when a strong urge to M appeared. But when i relapsed i decided to make a difficult password (so i cant remember it by my memory) and put it very hard place to find. I know that don't stop the urges, but without triggering content is far more easier to stay in the streak. Try the k9 web blocker, its free.

 

I wish I could like this twice!

 

Thanks, but I guess I'd just find a way to get around the blocker to watch porn. I'm good at computer stuff like that... unfortunately. I tried a program like that before and in the end I worked out a way around it. Or I'd use other devices and networks. It felt scary, almost schizophrenic... you're one person who does its best to avoid porn, and then you're the other one who does its best to watch porn. So, I think I need to find another way.

But your post made me check out what apps Google Play offers and I found one called Reboot which is exactly for what we're trying: quit watching porn. I'm not sure yet how it works but I think instead of blocking anything it's more about choosing to stop and maybe a permanent motivation. I'll give it a try because I'm using my cellphone all the time anyway. Maybe it has some effect.

So here I am again on day one. Pretty sad because the girl I was dating just kind of let me know that it won't be us. When I got home my first impulse was to watch porn again for comfort but then I didn't. It just felt like it would't help. I guess I'll be very depressed these next days but I hope I won't get strong urges. And maybe this app will help.

Thanks and good luck

 

I told my 60 year old dad about my pmo problem and he really understood...he really did; through the eyes of a former alcoholic. He told me there were times you just wanted to cry or did cry because you wanted use substance again.... those hard times inbetween using when you obstain and refuse carry a lot of healing.

 

Anyway, you can quit porn without any blocker. Put the blocker in your mind.

 

I also am a recovering alcoholic - dry since 1991. I only relapsed once on booze after realizing I had to stop - I've relapsed a bunch of times on PMO.

(Of course that one relapse on alcohol was a doozie, as in Wrecking multiple cars...)

 

Hiw r u now

 

There is psychological explanation to that:
You relapse because you are anxious.
You feel like sh#t and guilty.
Anxiety increases.
You binge and binge until you hit rock bottom.
You start another streak and the cycle goes on and on until you fix your anxiety problem.

 

Porn is the main enemy. Do not relapse on porn/images/anything digital because you are restoring old pathways and you feel going in a rabbit hole.
Guys here are on hardmode and stuff, personally I can't do it yet. I took a more pragmatic approach of course on my own risk. I want to relapse on purpose, only with masturbation, 1 time and get back into the nofap routine next days, initial interval is 14 days, then I will go for 1 month and go like that for 3 months.
I stopped at day 10 for the first streak, urges were too strong and I have a meeting tomorrow, I wanted to be already on a streak of 5 rather than lower. To be honest after that relapse I didn't felt chaser effect at all for the next 2 days, I didn't felt sad either, it was sort of nothing. Today and yesterday I was under assault with porn memories, literally the heaviest ones, you know those videos that you need for 3rd 4th fap in a day.
So friend porn needs to removed for good, its the main enemy, if you just relapse on your senses its all good, at least time it before a shower and sleep to avoid chaser effect. If you come after a streak and don't hit on porn you can fight it easily because you address your urges but you don't poison your brain with new memories.
We are not anymore in 1800, this society is sexualized to the maximum because it makes good money, you need to be a god to not check some woman on instagram and think about stuff, just keep your hands home.
The fact that we are doing streaks, it means we have a strong power of will and we can overcome this addiction. In my opinion this is harder than smoking, drinking is really about the antourage, this is like hardcore drugs so be proud for your streak and get back on the game.