Dating sites and massage parlors

I haven't fallen in the trap on going into a massage parlour for sexual services yet. But it has been a serious temptation for the last few months. I did walk into one, but for legitimate reasons.

However, the fantasy of going there and fulfilling my sexual desires has been bothering me for a while. Especially since I'm a virgin. It has been a genuine struggle and I worry that if I ever relapse, it will be because I go to a massage parlour.

Going on dating sites has been a more recent thing but only because I have an actual desire to go out with someone. Not for sex.

Hope you find the answer you're looking for.

 

I'm glad you said "a little more will power", I'm not sure if I have much left haha.

If I may ask, after going for the first time, would you agree it becomes more addictive?

I've been contemplating on the real reason as to why I have this obsession, and I think in reality I desire real intimacy with someone. Especially since I have not been with a girl before, nor will not be able to have sex with one unless I am married (for religious and cultural reasons). Going to massage parlours and in your case dating too, seems like the easy way out. An easy release.

Also, when I speak of intimacy, I mean settling down with someone and not simply just hookup with several random girls. Lust is never satisfied and eats everything up, including ourselves. However, lust is a difficult beast to tame.

Let me know if this is what you may be feeling too?

 

All you describe, is exactly what I'm feeling. Haven't gone down that path. But it seems like an exciting prospect.

However, my mind knows it doesn't end well. But I still crave for it.

 

Speaking from personal experience, I would advise against going into a massage parlor if you have never done it before. I agree with @Hardmode-Monk that it can be addicting.

Also, please consider:

• These establishments can be unclean and you could have potential to contract an STD depending on what type of contact you engage in.
• In some areas, these establishments are raided by police. Talking to a cop with your dick out is not a good spot to be in.
• If you are in a committed relationship, would you be able to tell your significant other that you are engaging in this behavior? If not, in my opinion, you are cheating.

To the OP, @Hardmode-Monk I'd suggest finding an accountability partner to help you overcome this. I am currently looking for an accountability partner. Please shoot me a direct message if you are interested in connecting.

 

massage parlor are pretty addictive , what makes it addictive for me is the thrill of going to a establishment and getting a service where your treated like a king by a fairly attractive women , finding that release and having no responsibility towards that person what so ever , but after the act is done you feel pretty low just my 2 cents

 

if you don't do some proper Sadhana, you will always have some degree of desire, I'm a virgin too but I could have the most attractive woman naked in front of me and get no erection,I believe I could have a woman trying to sexually seduce me but failing.

The secret is heavy spiritual practice, seeing the divine in every living being, cultivating intense love and passion towards all human beings, that pure Love thta is so pure that has complete absence of lust.

6th tibetan rite, cold shower, going to gym, mental purity, tongue purity, ear purity from lust do all help but in the end, the one I mentioned above is better than all of those ones