Relapsing right now

Love the honesty. That's why this forum is great. Sorry people weren't giving you feedback, they might be lurking like me. I bet it's because you didn't ask a question and the bad grammer posters did.

Congratulations on making it to day 3, trust me, it gets better from here, stay the course. Remember why you started. It probably doesn't really feel that great if you truly explore it, it only gives you a few minutes without the desire, but now you'll be the one in control.

 

Breath and step away from the sources of your relapse. Computer, shut it down, phone lock it. Breath and reassure yourself of why you started this path to begin with.

 

Just remember "anything worth having is never easy to acquire". Yes it feels tough but the reward waiting for you at the end will be so worth it. BCICAN is right, move away from the source of your temptation when you feel yourself slipping.

Have you got (or can you find) something else you can passionately throw yourself into. A hobby, work, volunteering, friends, class and study. Anything you can focus on so you're not thinking about it all the time, but something you're really into, something that brings you a lot of enjoyment so you keep going back to it.

Fill your life with good things and I'm sure the nofap journey will not be as tough.

 

Dude, if you need someone to talk you through stuff, message me. I’m always open to conversation. I’m on Day 6, urges have been horrible, my brain is constantly giving me porn flashbacks and images and I’ve been on the brink of relapse multiple times. But I’m determined to beat this thing this time. I had a 48 day streak back in February and ended up relapsing because of my horrendous withdrawal symptoms. I have no idea if they’ll be as bad this time but I don’t care. I’m willing to do whatever it takes to get through it. Stay strong and don’t give up. All of us can overcome this.

 

I would recommend you to find the root cause for your (social) anxiety. Porn is not the root cause of it, it's something you use to compensate your issues with (just like any drug) and makes it worse over time.

Porn in itself is not the problem, it's the issues you're having. What's the reason for them?

Talking to a good psychologist could help giving you insight in your (dys)functioning.

Update: Oops, I missed your abusive childhood there (very sorry to hear that). Okay, the root cause is clear. You need to work on that with a professional, really. Just abstaining from PMO is unlikely to resolve your issues.

 

I'm here too if you want someone to keep you accountable

 

The posts that get responded to are the ones towards the top because those are the ones people see right away. That's sorted by time, so if you don't get a response just reply to your own thread to bumb it up. Or if you see a thread from someone else about the question you're gonna ask then just go ask in there.

 

Always keep finding ways to motivate yourself. Reply to others' blogs, make them feel better. Keep your end goal in mind

 

Don't let your expectations of what others need to do get you down. We are all here in the same boat, we all have our challenges, in many different ways, but we all are united to want to overcome our addiction(s).
This is very powerful for all of us. Don't give up on this community. You cannot beat it alone. Thanks for sharing in your honest way.

 

I completely concur.