Hi everyboddy, i am new on this Page. Like most people here i am living whit PMO for many Years, started whit 17, when I found the first Pornomags, did buy Pornomovies whit 18 and followed every change in Media that followed. I had other Addictions to, started whit Alcohol at 16, later I started smoking Weed and tried a lot of other soft Drugs. In the time of taking Drugs, i would combien them all whit watching Porn, to get the biggest Kick i can. I had no way in Live, was floating along, depressed and angry. I always loved it to be in Nature, to paint, but i diddent know how to live in this world, I recognised that had crushes on Man, although ther where a few Girls as well, i had a crush on. But Society said: If you like Man, you are Gay, so i accepted it to be like that and the Girls where always to far away and to difficult to approach. A Change came, when i started reading books of nativ american people, about there way of living they once had and there shamanisem. That helped me to find a Path in Live thats worth to follow and i stoped the Alcohol, later the Weed ( witch i was addicted to for 12 years) , had relapses whit the Weed over the Years, but mannaged each time to get away from it again. I never even thougt of quitting PMO, althoug in a lot of Spiritual Practises its seen as a waist of Emnergy, so i started to not musturbate for smaler amounts of time, like 3 to 6 Days and i was amazed, that it is possibel. But i would always fall back into houres of PMO, 3 times a day if i was on my owen, and i recognized, how much Livetime that takes away from me. And then, i was watching violent Movies, wich left me feeling bad afterwards . I noticed how addicted i am to PMO, how it ruiens my sexual Live and i started to googel about Pornaddiction, thats how i found this Side. Now, i am on my 4ed Day, and i have the goal of quitting PMO for 3 Weeks, to see if its possibel, and then look how i continue. I dont want to stop Masturbation in general, but i want to get away from this Addiction to Porn, and its a great Inspiration to have found this Side and to read about so many People, trying the same thing. Thats supporting. Panthera pardus
Hello and welcome to our community! You found the right place to achieve your goals! I would recommend to try the 90-days-challenge. I am doing it on my own. I can say the benfits are great. At first you should try to understand the addict. Watch some videos, look into the threats. It will help! Good luck
I understand three weeks is a huge step for someone in your situation. However like the last post stated, I would definitely recommend trying it out for 90 days it becomes a lot easier than you think to not M. Just imagine the opportunities you’re missing to have real sex & to have a better life. You have to ask yourself “What is more important?” “Is watching P more important than the results I’m hoping to achieve?”
Yes, thanks for the motivating Words, you 2. I am curious how the effects will be. at the moment, i feel a lot of confusion, but there is something moving and thats a good thing. I want to find out the reasons for all this addictions and i guess i will come closer in time .
....and its not, that i never had real sex, maybe you could think so, reading my first post. I had two relationships, im still in a relationship right now (... whit a lot of problems) but the sex i had all my live was more about greed than about love. And, yes, whit the pmo i have problems to get hard in reallive, like a lot of people here. So, there are good reasons to try it out: What happens if i stop watching porn?
Did not mean to imply that I thought you never had sex that’s honestly not what I was trying to say. I meant real sex as in sex that is fully satisfying for both you and your partner. I too have had sex out of greed. I’ve also had sex that felt more like a chore than something I wanted to do. This was because I got the most pleasure from PMO. Not watching P will help your brain recover from the “damage” P does to us. The reason you have to stop watching P to fully recover is because P is not natural. Once you begin to PMO, after a while your brain starts to re-wire itself. Your brain starts getting used to the pleasure feeling that PMO gives instead of real sex. Then you slowly begin to lose your desire for real sex (and your ability to perform well during real sex) I’m on Day 26 of no PMO still recovering from ED. I feel a lot better. Both mentally and physically. My erections still aren’t rock-hard like my teenage years, but they’re getting close to that point! I promise after a while you won’t think of PMO nearly as much! Constantly remind yourself why you’re doing this & you’ll be fine!
I understand what you are pointing out, and its my goal to be able to have a real connection in sex whit my Partner, ( and i would love to hear somebody cry out my name in pleasure, be it a Man ore a Women) Honestly, the way i was introduced to Sexuality, i dident had a clue, that another way to have sex existed, it all came from the pornomovies and sexual games my older brother played whit me, there was no imagination of a loving connection ore romantic things. And thats how my Relations where, there was missing a deeper connection. I started to feel what i am missing 5 Years ago, made 2 Therapies witch was a good thing to do . I discussed it all whit the Partner i have now, at least we can talk about everything. We are 17 Years together and we have build up a living together, in all this Years, the relation has changed more into a Friendship on my side. We never had a monogam relationship, so i had other Partners and i had better and deeper connection whit other Guys. Since 3 Years me and my Partner, we a talking about breaking up the Relation, it dident happen right now, so there is another Addiction. I have to walk this Road step by step, and now, whit the NoFap, i maybe get the Energy to make some Decisiones ...face my problems...PMO, like other Drugs is a way to hide from the real world.
