Hello All, I have tried to quit watching porn in the past, and I would be successful (to a degree), but I would always ultimately fail... I'm pretty disappointed in myself right now, more so than usual, and I know my girlfriend would be very disappointed in me as well. I want to be better and plan for a future together and a life together like people do and I'm hoping that by openly expressing my desire for my addiction when I have it, with people who understand, then I can consciously learn to control it... If there is anyone who is wanting to challenge me to a "NoFap Contest", let me know (are those a thing?). I feel like if it's somewhat of a competition I can use that to my advantage and be stronger in my resolve. My initial goal here is to get to 45 days with no masturbation, and then put a larger goal on that and so on and so on. I have a lot about myself I need to change, so there will be no shortage of goals... Some quick questions for you guys... As we know, idle hands do the Devil's work, so when you have an urge, how do you curb or fight it? How long without masturbation have you gone? Did anyone continue past the "reboot" period and just keep going? Anyways, I'm looking forward to being a part of the group. Bye
Thanks for coming to NoFap. My longest streak was 81 days without pornography and masturbation. When my sexual urges go through the roof, I try to calm myself down by meditating. Another thing I do is that I set my mind on something else. One of the most powerful images I can think of is Jesus Christ on the cross. That image has consistently gotten me out of temptation.
Did your reboot help you? If so, how? While I'm not a particularly religious person myself, the image of anyone on a cross is probably enough to cause some shrinkage, lol. I do like your meditation idea, I will have to try that. I'm having urges currently myself, so I wanted to come here and face them. Just writing here has helped and the urge is gone! Awesome!
im going through something similar to you NewBeginnings2018. the difference is that i was doing ok with porn and my relationship which is not healthy. the probelms didnt start till i quit porn cold turkey and im 7 days in, the first few days were horrible and i didnt even know why. i didnt know it was this problem until today. i didnt have urges until today and i know they will keep coming for a long time. i know i have the will to defeat them. due to the help of others around me even when i dont think it will help right now. ever since i felt this way ive been pushing my girlfriend away and it feels horrible, i know i love her but this feeling is overwheming and the emotions and feelings toward her and others are clouded and fuzzy. i just have the belief that this will not last forever and hope my loved ones will put up with it for a while. im sure the same goes for all of you. the longest i went without "Fapping" is about a month. but i always went back to it. i never had a reason to stop until now and i hope you find that one thing in your life worth quitting this over.
Yeah, it helped me be accountable to someone. I came here to try to help people recover from their addictions. Unfortunately, I fell into masturbation 4 days ago, but I believe that this time I can make it to 90 days.
Be strong, I know we can do it... I think we all know that to stop using pornography is best for the long term, but it is hard to fight against that short term self gratification... I almost went back to masturbation, it was definitely on my mind, but then I came here to talk about it and saw your guy's post, and I know we can be better than we are.
Let us get to 90 days together, we can do it. If you are feeling weak in your resolve, just come here and let us know and think about a better future for yourself and all the self respect you will gain once you are in complete control... That helps me. We can do it.
Thanks man, it's too much for me to handle alone, so I'm glad to be here. I almost had a slip right now, so I knew I needed to come here and write something. The urge is most certainly building, I hope it peaks soon so that I know I can handle it at it's worst... It's been less than a week since last masturbation and I'm surprised how hard it is (no pun intended) to stay in control... As I've said before though, coming here to talk about it helps so much. I can feel the urge subsiding and once I've gotten that first grip on it I don't seem to have a problem the rest of the day... It's the mornings that really test me.
Welcome! I had to laugh when I read the first response, b/c my longest streak is also 81 days. What are the odds of that? Pretty slim. If I had any tips when you're feeling an urge, it would be make a phone call or take a walk. Something to get outside your own head. I'm down to try for 90, let's do it!
Ok. No masturbation for 90 days. Honor system, because I believe there is honor among thieves (that's us). I can't believe it's been less than a week for me! It feels longer, much longer.
