Relapsed After 21 days....help?

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Also, you understand edging is just as bad right? That's just a rationalization that your brain makes to continue getting what it wants. Same as any other rationalization, its bullshit and needs to be ignored

 

First off, each person is different so there is no perfect recipe for what you want.

Once you learn self control you can get that "good feeling" as you call it, back in 24 hours.

But the only way to have continual peace of mind is to stop all together. That usually takes around 90 days. But you will first feel "it's working" at 14 days.

Remember every day is a choice, and you're only ever minutes away from a reset. Don't kid yourself saying you're "all good" when you are still endulging and craving the dopamine hits. This is a fight, there is no easy way about it.

Great job on 21 days, I'm excited to hear how your new day 22 is!

 

Its not even about that, the way that it always leads to a full on fuck up.

Just the act of edging is horrible, all it does is strengthen the neural pathways that you're trying to kill. P, M and O, all 3 are your addiction and feeding them in anyway is slowing or completely undoing progress.

Even if you went a year without MO but continued edging you still haven't even slightly weakened those neural pathways in your brain. You gotta cut off all the bullshit that you can, even making an effort not to stare at girls you see helps destroy those pathways.

Just focus on the current day and don't let the rationalizations lead you to keep feeding the addiction. If you need to, ask on here if something is a rationalization or not. I can basically guarantee it is but still if you need someone to say it in the moment it might help.

Stay strong man! Good luck!

 

The problem is your brain is still looking at ways to cheat you and get its fix... always need to be on your guard

 

After falling and getting back up you can be stronger, you've learned something and can carry that over to this time. Learn from what happened and try not to worry about it too much.