Fellow fapstronauts, in my many years of watching porn, my sexual preferences have transitioned from vanilla sex, to an array of extreme fetishes. Honestly, I am ashamed to even think of some of these fetishes because they are that disturbing. A little over a year ago, I started dating my first girlfriend, but I have never been able to orgasm during sex without fantasizing about one of my fetishes. The first time we had sex, I couldn't feel anything with my penis. I feel very regretful that my first time having sex was such a disappointment and that I've never had fulfilling sex. Has anyone had similar problems to mine and overcome them through rebooting? If so, did you do easy mode or hard mode? Is sex with my girlfriend ok during the reboot as long as I don't fantasize or orgasm? Any advice would be much appreciated.
Yep dude, I think many of this have this problem. It is a poison and the worse thing in the world. During my successful reboots I did have significant improvements. I highly suggest researching karezza and exploring this with your girlfriend!
Your not alone in moving to more extreme fetishes due to watching porn. I have also had to use fantasies when with other to either keep an erection or to finish. This is one of the reasons I know I have to change.
I have this exact same problem, and have been reliably informed that a (hard) reboot will help with most of it, and that it will generally fade with time. P.S. I would strongly advise you to refrain from all sex or masturbation since each orgasm/dopamine flood you have while fantasizing, will reinforce those pathways and strengthen the fetish.