Is it better to masturbe after have watched a seminude picture on instagram that is making me crazy (thinking constantly about that pic from 2 days), so allowing the urges to go down? Or is better to resist? (urges will go down in their own?) Actually I have this question from many months, but never found an answer on this website. Thanks to all of who will help me!
Depends on what your goals are. If you're going for no PMO or no PM, just go run 10 miles or do something else time consuming to occupy your mind for a while. EVENTUALLY it'll go away on its own. For most people here, the urge to just M instead of PM is just the addict part of their brain trying to justify a dopamine hit. That's usually enough to cause a complete relapse too.
yes, my doubt is that maybe, masturbing (even while watching that exactly picture), I get down the dopamine levels. Instead, if I don't masturbe myself, my thoughts keep the dopamine levels high for a longer period. So I don't know how to manage these kind of situations. When I see a picture that triggered me I don't know how to react.
I think what happens is the opposite. Masturbating doesn't reduce your dopamine levels, it rewards them. The more often you do it, the easier it is to train your brain to receive instant gratification. The best way to react when you see a triggering image is to look away, and focus on something else until the image leaves your mind. If it keeps returning, keep finding distractions. Over time, you'll build up inner strength to withstand those moments better and better.
Thank you @Jen@8675309 Sometimes happened that one sexy picture on instagram leaded me to another and another and another one (getting me more and more aroused). So, thinking that this kind of behavior is a relapse in my own plan, considering it like P, in these kind of situations I say to myself: "if you did P, so let's do PMO and end the cycle to start a new clean cycle, resetting, and without any triggering thought". And I feel a shit again. Last time that it happened was today. I'm feeling really bad, because every time that I see a teasing picture I relapse totally (PMO), thinking that anyway I've relapsed watching them!
I feel you. You see a hot thick chick in yoga pants on insta and BOOM your mind starts racing. Just think how disappointed we will be in you if you give up after three days! We're on the same day dude, come on we just can't roll over and take it like that so easy!
Also. Those hot girls we see on insta. Let's turn it on its head. They are meant to look sexy. That's why they have that many followers. Quote a good rap lyric: "Yeah shawty bad, but she's broken she don't own shit". She doesn't care about your goals. She only wants to tempt you with her assets. She can have any man she wants at the click of her fingers. But the real man is the one who can control his desires and look past her assets and see in to her soul! There ain't nothing there! She's just a marketing tool, airbrished,glammed up. PS: not trying to be sexist or misogynistic at all. I'm sure these hot women have a personality or whatever, I'm just trying to justifiy and put some reasoning in why not to escalate that initial "I want it" thought lol.
Like they said. Try to not think it as a complete relapse. The world is full of it. The next day you wont feel any guilt. Dont give completely in. Say: «okay, I watched it. I am not giving in. i will continue my journey. «. I am writing this to myself as much as to you.
thanks to all of you! I won't give up. my only fear is this: will that picture disappear from my mind in the next days? Im asking it demanding about your own experiences.
It will go away after a night of sleep. You will have other issues in your life to focus on so it will go away, yes.