should I find a girlfriend in order to help me stop or stop and then get a girlfriend?

Long read here but Ive been suffering with porn addiction since my mid teens (im 29 now). I could always get hard but never could cum.

Long long story short my wife had her suspicions I had a porn addiction for a few years but I always denied it.
One day shit hit the fan with my wife with a few things I pretty much had to come clean with a few things including my addiction.

It was the best thing I could have ever done she helped me through it and after awhile (3 months+) when she was ready to go back to having sex for the first time I was able to cum with sex.

6 months ago i was sent away for work. Im away for 12 days then home for 2 days. I realised how much having my wife by my side helped curb the temptations. I didnt know how hard it was doing it on my own.. so i relapsed. But this time going back i was having erectile dysfunction. I was caught out. Its been 90 days since ive last PMO. (It should be 104 but i stupidly looked at GIFs a couple weeks ago and it didnt take long for me to get to an orgasm so i stopped watching it and just came so i didnt start edging. Im currently battling today again and edged for about 10 minutes before turning it off so i am myself worried that ive reset myself and scared i will have PIED again.. i am angry at myself for getting myself into this position.. cause now im horny as fuck and got mad temptations)

What im eventually trying to say is with my wife by my side it makes it so much easier with her support than alone. My advice is find someone and be open about your situation. Also That way you can tell if you have got a keeper or not depending if they choose to run or stay.. 2 birds 1 stone.

Hopefully Ive helped you out in some way..

 

I think you should try to built a simple friendly relationship and try to ignore those lusty looks or feelings because that could make any girl uncomfortable and not to think about being in a relationship with you. I can understand it's not easy as your brain is used to such feelings but try to ignore and take a fresh start.

 

I completely agree with Roady.

If you get through this with someone and she leaves, you’ll be susceptible to backslides. But if you beat this on your own, you’ll be a stronger, more confident you; and that will allow you to meet, attract, and date a woman who won’t be the make-or-break of your success.

 

No, you shouldn't.Fix your life first, chase pussy later.If your life is a fucking mess you won't be able to keep a girl anyways 'cause no matter what you think girls are attracted to or what girls think they're attracted to, there's nothing more unattractive to a girl than a guy who needs a girl to feel better about his life.It's called neediness and it's the more beta characteristic that can possibly exist.Chicks are attracted to happy/positive and confident men who have their life together and go after what they want, not to lonely boys (and rightfully so).A girl is the RESULT of a man's awesome life, not the cause.Deal with it and man the fuck up.

 

Also these negative thoughts are just your brain trying to make you relapse.