Hello everyone I am joining you today which is day 2 for me. I need somes advices because everytime I relapse it's because I am changing side. Let me explain What side means : Lets Say I have two sides, one side is sick of PMO and wants to stop completly and change. And the other one want to keep having fun even if I get angry and sad at myself afterward. The thing is that I Switch sides way too easily when à urge come to me. When à urge come I'm like "Ok bye I change side " even though 10 minutes ago I was like I have to stop. I think m'y will is weak, and I let m'y urges lead me. What do you guys think how Can I fix this ?
One way would be to fill your time with other activity. When you "switch sides" I bet you're usually in the same place, doing the same thing or nothing at all. So just keep yourself away from that situation. It's not about willpower, it's about arranging your life so you don't get in situations where you need willpower. Another would be to replace PMO with another, better way of "switching sides". This needs care, because you might be tempted to find a porn substitute that could be just as harmful. But there might be something you could go to when you need to that you'll find as exciting or comforting or whatever as you used to find porn, and that'll be better for you either permanently or just for a few weeks while you put porn behind you.
I feel the exact same way. It's fvcking shit. What i do is try to close the laptop/throw my phone on the bed. All these various things because if you don't it will come back but i relapsed just today. Which leads to my second point. DO NOT CHECK. That thing in you head that tells you you'll watch one video and move on is bullshit. You'll watch like 5+ or a really long one then PMO relapse. If it turns you on and it isn't an actual he/she in front of you that you're going to talk to or are talking to, it won't help you. Keep fighting though, I'm fighting with you.
