Why i need a girl in my struggle ?

Hello Everyone,

I'm John, I'm french, i'm 26 and i'm sick.

I already came here, on Nofap, several times. You can consult my first post and tries to stop with diary and all the usual stuffs here and here.

So.

Why i need a girl in my struggle against PMO ?

First of all, I already had a GF during 5 years and we broke up 8 months ago. I'm not looking for date or anything else.

I need a partner.

I already had an help guy (support partner) with this phone number etc.

To sum up, i read many of struggle's diaries from men or women. I'm feeling closer to the "bad feelings" or "pure addiction" that i read in women stories. After years i know i'm not fighting a sexual issue. It's just an addiction like cocaine, tobacco, alcohol and many people dont see that, even the psychiatrist or health personal i met for this problem. And that a big part of THE problem too....

But at the opposite of the "usual drugs" i mentionned, there is worst in this addiction its more vicious because it doesn't hurt. Very slowly, i loose friend, i became colder every years passing. But it was so slow that no one remarked it, not my family, not my closest friend, not my ex-girlfriend... etc...

It's been more than 10 years i have this addiction. I really became conscious of this illness about 1 or 2 years ago. And that is the MAIN PROBLEM because the reality is 10 years of accoutumance. Not 1 or 2...

So the answer at my question :

I need to share all this shit with a girl, with the opposite sex, my deepest shames about that. I need the alterity of women experience to fight this, i need a support partner who is a girl.

To me , Pornography is also a way to separate men and women. It is a sick vision of relationships, especially for me, because i'm very far from vanilla porn. I'm stuck in worst kind of virtual sex...

I Will post more and go further in my explanation.

I hope someone will hear my appeal.

I'm french, sorry for my english and don't hesitate to correct my sentences if you see errors.

See you later everybody !

 

Just relapsed...

Just relapsed heavily...

With money consumption and all things that come with.

i begin again and restart my counter i will do it again and again until i break at least my first and best record that is 17 days without PMO.

Juts that, remark the giantism of the issue : 17 days without PMO is my record i can't stand 3 weeks without touching my cock. Its horful.

i so badly would to be transfered to my 30 days or 90 days right now.

With my brain clear....

Anyone see my post. This post will be uses as my diary too. I prefer that.

Everything is in. my daily life and my presentation. I want it that way like Backstreest Boys said....

Ciao a tutti !

 

@GhostWriter

Hey! Thank you for your motivational answer, it gives me faith in me, really! I like this type of sentences they give me courage !

Yes, i said "need" because i feel it like a "need" and i think, after readings many stories of both sex, that it is good to talk about all this stuff with a girl. I think i will develop this subject in a next post when i will have more time (work a lot).

For a boy, i think it would be really useful to know the anxiety of a girl about herself, her struggle, all the problem with porn. And i talk more about the psychologial side of the issue, of course.

And its the same for girl, i think, when they think about boy's porn issues.

There is a continent to discover i think...

See you later all !

And thanks again @GhostWriter

 

Hey everyone,

I see my post was moved in this section.

I'm sorry for all who think it was a bad idea to post in the women section.

But i keep this idea in mind. There is a particulary thing about men/women relationships to enlight about PMO issues like we all have here.

I posted in women section cause i would like to have some girls who break the wall between their issues and ours.

I think it would be useful for ours both PMO issues.

Hope to be read by both sex !

I keep on this diary / journal/ digression /presentation thread !

Bye all

 

Hahaha thks @GhostWriter.

Good laughs, thanks to you!

I will post more after this. I just hope boys and girls read my post.

Its night for me in france, so good night!

 

Relapsed again yesterday night but i'm confident i really feel PMO with no more pleasure at all for me. I really live it like an addiction, it could seems nothing but for me its important . In my head there is no more doubt about ii , like when i finally succeed to definitely stop the cigs. i knowed it was bad for me at 100% bad....

So i really understand something about me and my frustration and i'm really in war against that, there is no more doubt about the fact " Should i really fight this ? Is this really an addiction" I step up i think.

Well, i promise i will write more developped thing about what i think about man/woman PMO issues and the keys what we could find in this subject.

See you later all.

And never give up !


@Mister Fire Salut Monsieur Feu,

Oui aucun soucis pour parler une autre langue que l'anglais, c'est sur que ça sera plus facile pour nous mais on sera compris par beaucoup moins de monde et je recherche la possibilité aussi de partager cette affaire avec le maximum de monde et accessoirement améliorer mon anglais en le pratiquant ici, mais nous deux si tu veux on peut continuer à se parler en français. En tout cas merci pour tes mots d'encouragement ça fais plaisir. Baleze8 mois !! je me demande d'ailleurs comment t'as rechuté après 8 mois j'arrive pas à comprendre, si tu peux m'ken dire plus?! A plus tard mon gars !

 

Thank you @Mister Fire and @persevereuntildeath for your reply.

@persevereuntildeath I thought during a logn time about what you wrote but i had a GF during 5 years and i never discuss with her about my issue /addiction and its one of my deepest regrets i think i would be still in couple with her if had do that before we broke up...

Thats why, among other reasons, i created this thread about the fact to have a girl in this struggle.

I think the men and the women are more efficient when they reach to make disappear false pride and postures and be able to talk about so intimate issues like PMO addiction.

Cause it is one os the most unmentionable issue of human kind !!

" I'm addicted to the fact to stroke my cock during hours in front of cumshot compilation... (randomly)"

it's so pathetic man. I so badly want to never do that again.

I say that, but yesterday night i relapsed again.. i'm not in a very good mood for fight BUT i feel ready so i keep the faith and the confidence!

Bet on me girls and guys I will make it.... one day!

See you later all i will write more in the next days!!

 

@akrivane Thanks for your answer and its already interesting. I think you 're right about what men thinks about PMO 's girls issues. I'm happy to read from a girl that may be a part of the solution to have discussion between women and men who are addict to this crap... I think there are walls between us and porn addiction is a big part of the problem.
I dream about easy conversation about bad feelings about PMO issues etc... I think it would be liberator.

@PMO addict You're right i know the risk but like i said before, for me, and after months of studies on myself and my addiction i know i have to try with this solution. i know in my issue that women are a part of the problem that's why i try to discuss about that with them.

So all of you, who has replied to me : @akrivane , @PMO addict, @Mister Fire, @GhostWriter , can you describe your addiction? your issue and how long you try to fight this and how long are you on Nofap? Did you talk about it with someone in your entourage ? etc...

Thanks for your time all !! New crew hehe !

Byt the way i relapsed again. In fact i fap everyday since one week i know well this type of period its hard to escape from it i am like that everytime i reach a 5/10 days of hard mode then i reach to start again really. i know i will go out from here. i have to be patient, it's a key of succcess too i think.

Ciao ciao !

 

@Mister Fire You're so damn right about mindset ! The big difficulty is to have an access to this deep personality...

I dont feeling like a pervert but when you stroke everyday to shitty videos always more humiliating we can say that we are pervert or at least have a big issue with that...

"Just change, raise up you standards and your values, change the way you look at women, sexuality etc."

So true. So close. So far. Damn.

@PMO addict I woul have , like you a a real friend in my entourage, to speak about this shit. you are so lucky to have a friend who is a gril to speak with.

I told about that only to a psy, and its really uninteresting. She takes that lightly, for me. She's searching other things than that and we dont talk a lot about this issue. For her it's just a problem of frequency... Anyway. I will talk about that later too.

It's night in France, so good night to all !!

P.S : @akrivane Can you describe you addiction how you fight it? Since when you're are sick? etc...

 

@PMO addict I understand very well what you said. But Don't you think its exactly a problem. To be aroused about a big issue from someone who are struggilg with. So nevermind the way we have to do this, we have to be confronted to this... i think. cause if we dont, we just are, at the top, perverts in withdrawal.

So even if on the moment you was triggered, the fact you dont give in your addiction makes you stronger and permit yourself to live this next time withtout sexual thoughts the next time. I hope!

Congrats for 46 days !

I came back on a good mood about Hard mode its been 2 days already and i'm feeling great, i hope to keep on!

Bye bye all see you later !