I don't know, I was at church today and they were talking about you need other people and relationships to get through suffering, but in my case I'm suffering because I really don't have any friends or a girlfriend. I'm mostly fine on my own, but when I start thinking the fact that I'm lonely and don't really have friends, it's pretty much the only thing that makes me depressed. I'm also trying to working out more trying to lose weight I'm only about 15 pounds overweight and already starting lose weight. I'm also trying to gain muscle and testosterone which will hopefully make me less shy. I've also gotten a job where in tech support where I'm answering phone calls, and trying to help people. Hopefully in a way that'll help me be able to talk girls in real life. I've been almost on 40 days of nofap. I mean it's been over a year since I got a good hug from a girl, and touch is my strongest love language. So far, nothing is working...
Maybe you pressure yourself too much with working and being the best of all. Women notice that. You have to be more relaxed, do something that you enjoy. Or check out other regions then in these where you live.
You need to start to love yourself, you have great potentials, which others don't. Discover it, develop it, do what you love, find people with the same passion, get to know them, be friend with them. If you don't find any, that's okay. It's all in your thoughts, your thoughts are not you. Thoughts will go away, yet you still you. And someday you'll find someone, but expect nothing. One who seek a perfect partner will never find one. That goes with friend too
Maybe them saying you need people and and relationships to get through suffering caused you to start feeling suffering? I have no friends other than the people I see on my daily basis which are co-workers and people at stores. I love my dogs. That's about it .. lol and my dad cooks food. All of my other "friends " weren't really friends. Except for people in AA who were trying to get sober. But the problem with looking for friends and relationships is you'll quit living authentically. Let it come naturally and don't feel bad about it. Maybe try affirmations. Don't worry everything you want will come to you and won't be a want for much longer.
Well me and a lot of people in this forum too, you're not alone. It takes time getting one and practice in social skills for getting the right one. And before you think, people around you having a relationship and might be happy, don't believe that: I saw often that such couples are not that happy as it looks for us.
Stop chasing women and star loving yourself. It will do all the magic because women love successful men. And be sincere with yourself.. That helped me.. When I stopped chasing, I found there are people around who really like us.
True, I mean after you're recovering yourself, it will naturally appear, you will become attractive somehow, and get interested in real women
Who doesn’t i definitely would like companionship but you have to understand that ultimately that you are the source of your own happiness all the things you feel while single won’t change just by being in a relationship just work on beating your porn addiction and self development and you wil attract the right people
