This forum has been a great place to discuss and share ideas. Helped me explore the problems of others and my own problems. I learned from others here and hopefully others learned from me. Sometimes I gave good advice and sometimes not. Sometimes I helped and sometimes I acted /responded in an immature way. Some things I'm proud of and other times it showed me that I have a lot of room for improvement. Sometimes I was compassionate and sometimes I was too hard on others.... but that's me.... the current me... still flawed and always will be flawed. I've become tired of contributing in this forum lately. Reading about other people's lives and problems... responding to them... debating... it can be draining. I'm not quite sure how much of a positive effect I'm even adding to this community if any at all. I get a few people that show their gratitude sometimes and I'm glad for it, but most of the time I think the advice I give is mostly for myself to hear. Every advice I gave was sort of like a mini journal. The threads that I tend to respond to are the ones that I relate to and have experience in. So it's like I was giving advice to myself or my past self. I met some interesting and good people here. Most of them disappeared without a word. New people come and go. I'm glad there are strong women in this community who knocks some sense into the men (including towards me at times when I'm being an idiot). The amount of pain, problems, and negative experiences that are brought up in this community and the ones that I face in my own life has gotten a bit much lately. So I need to start focusing on myself a bit more these days. I'm big on not escaping into the easy, certain, and instant gratification. Developing your reality. Attaining higher quality positive experiences by learning to handle the negative. Doing the scary, difficult, and uncertain things that you know you should be doing in order to become the person that you want to be and to have the life that you want. So that's exactly what I need to be doing right now. I have found and reached my better place, with better people, as a better version of myself in my life, but it's still something that needs to be developed and something that needs work. It takes a lot of work and courage. I think I've pretty much poured everything I've learned into various parts of this forum. Maybe they helped and maybe they didn't, but it helped me work things out in my head. If I could leave one more thing for this forum, it would be "memento mori." Remember that we're going to die someday. Think about what's really important. Put the work into developing your reality. Go talk to that person you want to talk to. Fail, get rejected, learn, and respect yourself for trying. Thank you all for the interactions. I wish you all a great life and an interesting journey. I want to live my life and be with the people that I love. They're the ones that need me the most. That's where I need to be.
I'm sad to see you are leaving Elevate, I appreciated your perspectives on the threads that I read, particularly how you challenged the toxic rhetoric that often stems from the PUA community, showing how harmful it is to both men and women. However I understand that you feel your journey here is stagnating and you feel a draw towards your friends and family offline. That is a very healthy feeling and shows you have a full life of people who love and need you, which I think seems to be one of the aims of this community (building real life friendships and a relationship rather than self isolation and porn). Are you going to delete your account or leave it open in case you decide to return in future after some time away? Are you going to any 12 step groups?
I may not have known you, but your contribution is appreciated. I wish you all the best. Live your life to the fullest..
I'm not sad you're leaving. None of us should want to remain here. The goal is to reboot and create a new life and you can't do that still talking and thinking about old habits. Have a great life! PS You don't get to leave here without me calling you an attention whore for this thread. Jk Kind of.
Thanks elevate for pointing out many hard truths that were sometimes tough to come to terms with. I'd say that was your strength for certain. I think this forum will eventually run its course for all of us, and hopefully we all can walk away feeling that we've improved in some way. Best of luck to you.
May the journey bring you lifelong freedom from the beast my friend. Sounds like you are more than ready to boogie on outta this town pal.
I have to agree it is over-the-top. I would call him emotionally naive myself. But with a good head and heart on his shoulders and the inner strength to leave this forum and keep his recovery going.
One last thing. The title of your thread appears to be in conflict with the last part of your post, about being there for people (I am assuming offline) who value and need you most. Just pointing it out I guess. I mean focusing on helping them kind of contradicts focusing on yourself. But I suppose what you mean in summary is you reached out here to offer insight and help and it has run its course. Very well then. Go support those you feel need you. I for one don't plan on being here permanently either.
Thanks Elevate! I actually enjoyed reading your posts. I feel like you're making a huge step by trying to spend more time outside of these forums. You've given some of us good advices that we can apply. I would like to someday move on and never look back on these forums once I reach one year of no PMO.
I lied. Dude I am also following you. Adios amigos. But yo I am still helping Fight the New Drug. I mean like I support all you fighting the beast here.
It's a legit point. p.s. Your profile quote is HILARIOUS, man! “An apple a day keeps anyone away if you throw it hard enough.” -- Someone Rotten
