Captain Rex reporting. 9 months and 1 week in so far with no relapse but since my flatline's ending, I'm starting to get decently strong urges and I just don't know how to deal with them. I haven't relapsed because I'm not letting my insane streak go to hell just for a petty 5 second orgasm. I'm spending my sex energy on other things as well (not just World of Warcraft lol). But the thing is, the urges are keeping me up at night and I don't know how to properly deal with them. I end up getting magic man juice in my pants and I have to go the bathroom to clean up that shit which is really annoying. I do get to sleep thankfully so I'm wondering how do I deal with the sex urges so that falling asleep would be easier. Have any ideas on dealing with the temptations of the devil? Captain Rex out.
That's tough. Great job on continuing the streak. I've heard recently that focused meditation can work your brain out, and you end up being mentally really tired at the end of the day and helps you sleep better. Never tried it but I want to just to see if it works. Also, do you exercise? If not, just try doing something active during the day for an hour or so, wear yourself out a little bit so when you hit the bed you're too tired to think about those urges. Maybe that will help. I'm kind of spit balling here but hopefully one of those two things could help you out.
Meditation or affirmation is good idea. In Poland i use affirmation of the release from pornography before bedtime it help to relax. Good luck!
Yes, I do meditate but I only do it 2-3 times a day for 10 minutes each. Am I not doing enough meditation or something? I don't want to do it for hours at a time, it sounds so boring to me.
Yes, I do exercise but I do it 1-2 times a day at home. I rarely hit the gym so I just use weights at home since I don't feel like walking.
Try to exert yourself physically, not just exercise. Play sports or something, something competitive.
hmmm... I would change your habit. Like the guys said above.. Go find a new hobby. Go find something to do! Whenever you get that urge, it should click in your head that it's time to do "that" thing. That's what I did.. If i ever felt the urge to masturbate, I would immediately start doing pushups and pullups and boy...does it work wonders. You won't see the results of why these little urges count but little by little.....man, the results will show. Another thing i can say is change the way your environment. Sometimes the best medicine is not to force new habits, (because most of the time it fails 90% of the time is due to how hard or complicated it gets; therefore, we get overwhelmed by how much effort is needed to commend to the "new hobby") but to just exclude the activity such as your sexual urge problem.. mentally, physically, and spiritually...is what really counts. What I mean is that, be in a new environment where you are practically forced to do new things. For example, phones are addictive. why? social media...and other reasons why. They register dopamine to our head which is the same chemical that is involved in drugs and you guessed it, porn or sexual urges. To best remedy the "urge" to look at our phone because of how social media really affects....simply leave your phone at home. turn off your phone. You're going out with a friend? Great! have him be the guy who has the phone in case for emergencies. It's the same structure when it comes to sexual urges my man. Basically, outsmart your self.
Weeeellllll, I do play the trumpet every day and I've been using it for about 4 years now but I rarely ever used it during my PMO days outside of school. So yeah, I've always had hobbies even during my PMO days which is why I was so able to quit really easily. I've never even relapsed during my entire journey so far and I'm hoping to not let my streak go to waste.
Then it's time to learn something new. Maybe a language? Something that'll really pick your brain and really ask the question...Why am i so frustrated that I haven't learned or picked up this skill? That is a way to motivate yourself to exclude the sexual urge.
