Can i continue seeing normal pictures ?

Hey @The Revenant ,

Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place.

To see about having orgasms with a real life partner check out the rebooting page at this link: https://www.nofap.com/rebooting/ it explains the various modes of rebooting.

I'm just a regular member on here, so take what I say as my experience. I found that I needed to:

1. Learn the NoFap program.

2. Get involved with the community.

The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/

Then, watch this video:



It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation.

The video explains it better than I can.

Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much.

Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate.

Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums,

--> L

PS - I Think of pmo like a wolf. When I stay near the center of the group and stay with the winners, the wolf has a more difficult time finding me. But, if I stop working at NoFap and stray near the edges of the community, then the wolf can pick me off.

 

For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship.

Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles.

I've found that the bricks that hold this community together are cemented with the support of the members of the fellowship.

@CrushPornBeneathYourFeet
@JakeO5
@Arohamystic
@MLMVSS
@Rising Sun !!
@Ready to be healthy
@Brahmacharin
@tet2vd
@Satchi
@BigDawg913
@zakes
@LilD
@kropo82

Look at with whom they exchange messages and you will find more profiles.

So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself.

Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles,

--> L

 

One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program.

I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work.

Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few:

@LeoJohn - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/159500/
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@Iron Patience - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155794/
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@ludwig525 - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155658/
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@Mr.Imperfect - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/164547/
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@GeeWhizz - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/152127/
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@Sunshadow - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/75108/
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@Tomoya Okazaki - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143534/
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@Fortitudo - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/
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@Dragonnlife - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/136148/
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@weddingnails - https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/155372/
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There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start.

This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here.

--> L

PS - Starting a journal also helped me a great deal.

The journals are listed by age groups on the forum start page.

Most members run one journal only. That way both the member and others can go back and look at their journey at a later time.

Hope to read your journal soon. Also, in your personal details you can put a link to your journal. Then, appears under your avatar.

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Your Question: "- Sometimes, i see normal pictures of beautiful women on Google (models, actresses, ..) but not porn pictures. Is this bad for the challenge ?"
To be honestly, I don't think that would be a good way for me. If I start doing that I don't know where it ends. So I fight from the beginning. Sure, if there is a beautiful woman (no porn, no nudity) there is no problem to see picture of her (no porn, no nudity, no turning on). But learn how to control yourself. You have to control your body, you body must not control you. Just have it in your mind. Good luck my friend, go your way and fight a good fight.

 

I wouod reccomend avoiding stimulation at all costs and that includes pictures of actresses and models. Abstinence is a slippery slope and many of my failures started out with something as simple as that. An image like that can stick in your brain and lead to urges later on even if you dont realize it. Thats my experuence anyway, i hope this helps. GOOD LUCK AND STAY STRONG MY FRIEND

 

Hello...as Nuhope said correctly: You have to control your body, you body must not control you. Just have it in your mind."

Sex is a gift and is great! Sure you should see your sex partner..you MUST because we should not confuse sex with the PMO addiction
Sex will help you focus on sex and in your partner …PMO will make you focus on fantasies and into yourself, driving you away from friends, job, learning other things, etc.

Looking at nice ladies ? well I think if I do that I will end where I do not want to…I know that watching nice girls, in nice outfits will make me focus on nice faces, ans nice curves and nice breasts and legs…I know exactly that will make me go into PMO so I avoid it as much as possible… but that is me and what I think. If you think you can control that, is OK (certainly nice women are a wonderful sight in this convulsed world) just be careful

 

Why are you asking us? This YOUR challenge, YOUR process. And YOU are the only one who really knows what is right for YOUR situation.
So ask yourself directly and honestly, are these things hindering or helping you to get what what you want /need out of this?
Take input from others here if that helps. But please don't let anyone else tell you what is good or bad for you.

 

Welcome The Revenant!
If you want yet another opinion to help you answer your questions for yourself, I would say I would repeat what was already mentioned by @Full ahead.
It can be dangerous to start watching some pics of nice ladies because it's very, very likely that at least one more sexual pic appears. And then, you WILL feel (small) urges. Without exaggeration, for most of us that means we'll be eventually triggered to PMO or at least MO (which you also should try to abstain from, during reboot mode).
Many let their emotional brain trick themselves into following the thinking pattern: "I want to watch this => I will be able to control myself => I will watch this", only to end up with dissapointment after.
It is ofcourse possible that you can control yourself. But maybe you're not ready for that yet. Most of us aren't when we come here. We're here to work on that. When are you ready imo? You're ready when you understand that you, your active mind, the one who is thinking your thoughts is an observer, not a sufferer, of emotions, capable of noticing emotions that are happening to your body and capable of choosing to give it a consequence (responding) or not. Capable of bringing peace to your mind by deciding to let emotions pass by. That is how people before us have learnt to live with their urges, emotions, pains.

 

Excellent post, my friend. You hit the point.