Q: Why did YOU decide to stop watching porn?

I needed to stop watching porn because, I was sick and tired of being ashamed of myself and then not being able to talk about it with anyone. Which then put me back in the neverending cycle of regret. Which then leads to more porn viewing.

 

So many reasons, from becoming a better person, not wanting to carry around constant guilt and embarassment, to boost self confidence and be able to feel good about myself again, as a Christian it was so that I could stop sinning against God.

Mostly it was to save my marriage and prove to my wife that she is enough for me, and that I don't need anything else. Our love has really flourished even in this past 61 days PM free, and I can say that it's so much better that staying stuck in that rut of PM.

 

This also. So true. Porn will ruin your sex life. Some people say it helps to watch porn to "learn new things" or whatever, but really it just makes you expect things that these fake actors are portraying as real.

It's much better to just communicate with your SO and find out what works for both of you. You don't need that outside garbage to get better in the bedroom.

 

I decided to stop because I was choosing porn over sex with my wife..... that made me feel so lame. And I want to see if I can overcome a lifetime of porn addiction.

 

My reasons have changed very recently...

Started a new study course, watching porn screws my capacity to study to the point where I could literally be wasting years and thousands of dollars just for this one bad habit. This is good though, gotta have reasons to give this shit up!

I've been single or in short meaningless relationships for too long. Honest, natural fun attraction is what I want. Not pixels or flakey relationships (it's not fun when both people are only seeing each other because they have issues).

Watching porn takes my time and energy twice... In the hours watching. And in the days that follow where I have headaches, shame, social anxiety and low energy.

 

Innitial reason was only limp, limp, limp dick and later I realized it makes me procrastinate much more. So one more good reason why not to.

 

Well, when you are used to watching porn and masturbate for the most part of your life, you don't know that that is an issue. Until a day comes by, and you try to not do it, only for one day, and you fail. Then you cry and fap for about six times and realize how deep in the shit you are. Then you decide to change yourself and your life. If you don't try really hard, life won't get well by itself, it only goes worse, and worse. One good way to improve your life is to cut down all the addictions you have. Only then you can say that you are free!

 

I am currently single, 24/25, male from India.

Basically, I became a zombie. I would not blame porn for that. It was my fault to over indulge in it and without realizing, my life got deteriorated.

During last few years,

1. I became self-help junkie.
2. I got obese due to long periods of sitting at work and too lazy to exercise.
3. I ate lot of junk food and over indulged in it. I basically abused my body with lack of exercise and junk food.
4. I kept watching more and more hardcore porn day after day because I could no longer get off normally. It was a thirst which would never be satisfied.
5. I also viewed women as sex objects because I allowed my mind to get conditioned to porn.
6. Instead of meeting people, I would isolate myself in my room.
7. Instead of being very active at my age, I wake up late every morning and would not sleep until past 1AM every night.
8. I spend hours on reddit, social media and youtube
9. I lost lot of hair due to negligence
10. I became extremely lazy, forgetful and also couldn't think clearly because of brain fog
11. I lost happiness in small things in life. Things which gave me happiness in the past have no longer any effect of me. I became a lifeless soul. I stopped celebrating festivals and special events.
12. I became very very depressed and lost interest in everything.
13. I feel weak all the time and feel as if no energy is left inside.
14. I would sleep 8-9 hours and still feel bad. I would not wake up from bed for at least 30 minutes.
15. Lot of social awkwardness and nervousness. I couldn't look people into their eyes properly.
16. I could not focus on anything properly and would feel very irritated all the time.
17. I would postpone things often and would neglect even small things which could be handled easily.

Luckily, being only 25, my health is fine right now in spite of all the neglect but I decided to have a healthy lifestyle now at least.

 

When you run into that crazy lady on the subway who claims she's having an alien's baby, you have no doubt that she's crazy—or delusional at a minimum. Most of us on this forum have been and in some cases still are varying shades of delusional. Even if your mind is aware that the experience you're having with pornography isn't a “real relationship,” your body responds to the stimuli all the same. We gradually train our bodies to respond to a delusion in varying degrees of hideousness. At some point along the line we hopefully wake up and realize that huge part of our daily time, energy, and thought processes are consumed by this cycle that isn't even real and has never helped anyone to get anywhere.

When's the last time you heard someone say that their life had been improved in any meaningful way through PMO?

More than anything, I suddenly realized how alone I really was. My best friend was my internet connection and the women in my life mere background music. I don't think I've really been in love for over a decade. There's been plenty of lust and, when you're being sloppy in your life as I was, it's easy to confuse love and lust. Lust is something you do with your body; love is something you do with your life. I felt like someone who was simply going through the motions, waiting for real life to begin. It took me the better of decade to realize that this is real life here and now and I'm wasting it. I don't want to waste my life anymore, so I quit. Not just the pornography but all the self-hatred, shame, and self-destruction that comes with it.