lonliness during hardmode

I can relate to you, i have exactly the same problem and i am trying to find a solution.

I understand you and always when i pmo it is because of loneliness. hope it will change after nofap ( i am doing my best to change but i always finish by relapsing..)

 

I'm in the same situation too bro.. though it's not an everyday issue but on some days it just kicks in.. like today I have a lot of friends too that I spend time with whenever I need to socialize but I think the issue is with my heart. I know even God never intended me to feel this way.. It's just me, the one who needs to do something about it. I think loneliness too was the reason of my last relapse.
If PMO makes our mind think this way then maybe looking for real friends would be helpful. Friends who we can connect and be open with regarding our struggles.. Because honestly we cannot open this PMO issue & struggles with most of our friends and I think that's what makes us disconnected and leads to the feeling of loneliness.
But I want to know something, do you guys think being in a intimate relationship will somehow change how we feel?

 

Loneliness is always an internal issue, that doesn't mean that reaching out to other people can't help. Keep in mind loneliness is a thought not a fact. For a quick temporary solution to loneliness, get busy with something, that can be anything like working out, going for a walk, anything that gets you out of your head and thoughts. For a more permanent solution, you have to get to love yourself. Listen to yourself and be the person who you want to be. Use the quick solution while working on the permanent solution.

Jeremy_jr, an intimate relationship will change how you feel, but it's also temporary, you are still filling the void with something external.

 

Keep in mind being on noPMO cures the numbness. It makes you feel the truth about yourself. Thus noPMO can make you feel crappier then before. Let me share a bit, during my 27 years of PMO, I had friends, but I neglected them, my social network became smaller and smaller the older I got. I didn't care, sure I felt lonely sometimes but I had PMO, food, games, television to keep me busy. I knew my life wasn't what I wanted to be, but I was never motivated to change myself. Once I started with noPMO, I felt energetic, great, full of motivation to change myself, after a month loneliness kicked in, sure I felt ok when with other people, but you always have to get home at some point. It made me feel even more alone. I thought I was really sad. I was really thinking myself sadder and sadder. I still feel quite often lonely. So don't expect miracles, but controlling my mind keeps it manageable. I hope you can get through, cause PMO won't give you anything. Truly listen to yourself, meditate, find yourself inside, it will guide you.

 

I think it's P that makes us feel lonely. Crushing us and making us feel worthless. But we have to fight it!

If you have some money join a gym, but don't just go for weights join a class so you can meet people. I love boxing and really found a place for myself within the sport. There are so many options as well: martial arts, football, rowing, cross fit.

Just don't forget that you have us in here if you ever need anything and I'm sure anyone in here will give you the time of you need it