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Newb here- pretty glad to find y’all here

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by CataclizMicky, Apr 1, 2018.

  1. Apr 1, 2018 #1
    CataclizMicky

    CataclizMicky Fapstronaut

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    Hey everyone, I’m a 36 year old male just coming into this community for some support in what I’m slightly relieved to find is not as an uncommon and shameful habit as I always convinced myself it was.
    I’ve been addicted to porn and masturbation since my early teens and I am finally now admitting to myself that it’s the source of more than a few issues in my life. While I do enjoy sex, I’ve had trouble achieving and maintaining erections, it’s near impossible to ejaculate during intercourse, and this clearly has had a negative effect on my partner’s satisfaction as well. I’m harboring and growing a profound performance anxiety issue and all of this just continues to get worse.
    I think I’m finally ready to admit defeat in my addiction. I’m addicted to porn, I escape through masturbation, I cause harm to myself and others through it and it’s time to stop.
    I have a difficult road ahead. I’m in a newer relationship and she does not know about this yet. I’d like to quit porn and masturbation for good. I’m now only on day 4, but having had some weeks where I’d masturbate 7+ times each day I’m pretty happy about 4 days with 0 events...
    Thanks for listening; I’m glad to have found this community, and having read through many of your posts I feel like this might just be doable.
    Godspeed!
     
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  2. Apr 1, 2018 #2
    TheGoldenEra

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    Hey man,welcome to the forum :D your doing a great job! From 7 times a day to 4 days without it is great. Keep up the hard work Bro. If you need any tips feel free and do not hesitate to contact me. I would be more than happy to help you, likewise if youre lonely I'd be more than happy to lend you an ear.

    Stay strong Bro and all the best!
     
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  3. Apr 1, 2018 #3
    CataclizMicky

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    Thanks so much man! Really appreciate the positivity.
     
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  4. Apr 1, 2018 #4
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    Welcome. Glad you are here.

    Take some time to read the reboot material and come up with a plan for what you will do when you are faced with urges. It has good advice, so don't skip it! :)

    Perhaps start writing a journal - if you feel comfortable telling people about happened and what's going on now, you will start to feel accountable to them. You may even inspire others. It's a nice feeling! This will help your recovery.

    Also, try to add something into your life that makes you the kind of person who doesn't engage in PMO. Think about doing:
    Something you enjoy
    Something you're good at
    Something important
    Something for somebody else, without thought of reward (and if you DO get an unintended reward, do something ELSE, perhaps for a different person or group).

    Read the journals of others - we all learn from each other. For example, I received the above good advice from a far more experienced member of the community who shared his knowledge. Don't just stay within your own age group or part of the world. Share your knowledge in a respectful way. Read, learn, apply.

    Look around the forums, get to know people. Everyone is friendly, and will try to support you. We're all in the same boat here. :)

    Be kind to others and others will be kind to you, both here and IRL.

    I wish you a successful reboot.
     
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  5. Apr 2, 2018 #5
    CataclizMicky

    CataclizMicky Fapstronaut

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    Wow. Thanks everyone for the well wishes and advice. It’s rather overwhelming that people care so much! So far I’ve been lucky and haven’t fallen into tough urges as of yet, but I know it’s coming. Really looking forward to a better life though.. thanks to all of you for paving the way for the rest of us just starting out!
     
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