I've been trying to stop looking at porn for a while now, and I've been trying to stop looking at certain kinds of porn for a lot longer. It was my failure to limit myself that led to me trying to stop completely, and it's my failure to stop completely that brings me here. I really, really did not want to join this website. I've been lurking here for almost a month now, and I made a private journal of my own, but I didn't want to join. I didn't want to go public in any way, even anonymously. My journal seemed to help, and I managed a streak of 10 days - but that might have had more to do with my 19th birthday encouraging me. I figured my journal was enough. Evidently, it was not. Since that last streak, I haven't been able to go more than 2 days. I relapsed again today, and I realized I had to give NoFap a chance. My goal is to reach 14 days without porn or masturbation. What I do after that is up in the air. I really hope posting here helps.
I hear you. It is kind of a weird theme for a club. If it existed as a society or a club at a university or college I'm thinking it would take a while to get off the ground.
Welcome! I'm glad you're here. I laughed when I read, "I really, really did not want to join this website." I know that feeling! I felt it way back when I had to admit to myself that I was powerless over sexual compulsion, and my life had become unmanageable. That was when I first attended a meeting of Sexual Compulsives Anonymous, sort of like AA. I got away from SCA and SLAA, and things got worse. Those fellowships aren't around here, but NoFap is. It saved my life. I hope you keep coming back.
I'm new too, brother, and of a similar age. I've spent a long time arguing with myself about whether PMO was disrupting my relationships and my health, but was too afraid of the apparent truth to look for the scientific evidence. Today I looked for the answer and discovered I was part of an epidemic that affects young people worldwide, but is completely taboo (even in most private conversations). Perhaps it's the excitement of taking up something new, but I feel confident and this is certainly a logical next-step for me. I hope we both succeed.
it is not going to be that easy bro if you need to change something you need to start with yourself Just focus Keep yourself busy Try to avoid being alone when it is the urge time
My main hope is that by posting here, and knowing that my progress is being seen, I'll have an extra reason to resist urges. I know that won't be enough, but as you said, I need to keep busy, and this site could be a good distraction. And that's a good point about being alone. When I get a strong urge, literally just leaving my room could be a great help. Thanks.
Honestly, I haven't really looked at this from a scientific viewpoint. I see the list of possible effects, and I don't really care. To me, it's just another of one countless health warnings, which are attached to everything from food products to how you sit in a chair. It's the fact that I haven't been able to stop that annoys the hell out of me. If I had that control, than I would likely watch as much P as I wanted, health warnings be damned. That being said, there are legitimate health reasons to stop PMO'ing. It's smart of you to get ahead of this, before it really messes you up. I wish you luck.
That's cool, man. You gotta do this how you want to do it. With time and as things gradually change, those levels of control will come.
