Best friends, Im now on 3,5 month of no PMO! I didnt watched porn and didn't masturbated and also didnt orgasmed with masturbation!! On day 70 i was with a girl i meeted. We were intimate, kissing, fingering and a blowjob! We both orgasmed! I dont consider it a relapse, beacause it was a real girl.. i didnt used porn and masturbation. And it also wasnt a prostitute or something.. But now i am 3,5 month further and sometimes out of nowhere old porn scenes en actrices pop out in my mind.. esspecialy in the morning.. What does this mean?? Is this a sign of recovery? Please your advice! Thanks alot!
Well for me its like some weeks i have no thougths abou porn and there are weeks i hink about porn everyday in my case this mostly comes from my mood if i feel bad,weak or just negative emotions i tend to think about porn or get backfalshes if i feel good and have a lot of stuff to do i dont have them just give it time i mean a year long habit cant just fade away in a few months
I think it's normal to have those thoughts. Just today I had some sneak into my mind this morning. They are memories, but you have the ability to control your thoughts. Just be intentional about it. If you start seeing those images in your head, make it a point to change your thought process. Put yourself in the moment, or distract yourself with a book or a walk outside. Anything simple like that can get your mind off of those tempting thoughts.
I still have these and to tell the truth, its part of being a man. The important thing is to not act on those urges (fantasies), what I mean is dont masturbate and or orgasm to these thoughts.
I recommend you to stop caring about this scenes, I believe if you connect any feeling to them no matter good or bad they will more likely reappear. Besides that a morning routine which engages you not only physical but also mental is always a good thing to have. I start my day with maybe half an hour of indoor running followed by a cold shower on the physical side and on the mental I think about what I’m grateful for, the people i love, what I’m curious about the day to happen, and most importantly what kind of human being i want to be and which are the steps i will take today to become this
Well you can just do stuff do distract yourself and invest time i mean this fantatsies triggers and pictures are deep in your subciouns mind you trained your brain to be like that and this is not somwthing that well change fast