DEATH GRIP is killing my sex life

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ludwig1, Feb 26, 2018.

  1. ludwig1

    ludwig1 Fapstronaut

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    Long story short i did NoFap for 6 days and ended up horny so i bought tinder plus when i was drunk and got tons of matches and hooked up with two girls. both times I DID NOT CUM FROM SEX . first girl for the most of the session i had a weak erection and i could not cum no matter how hard i went . She was begging for my cum so i did the only way i know how to cum and thats with death grip . i had sex with her for like 3 hours on and off girl loved it but was pissed i couldnt cum from her bj.

    One big thing i noticed when she was going slow and licking my penis i honestly couldn't feel it at all and i have never came from a bj ever .
    Girl # 2 was worse this was the day after and i was hard for a total of 5 mins and she just gave me a bj ever . best blow job of my life and it was for like a half hour straight ! couldn't cum at all.

    has anyone have success curing this? cant go to the dr because no insurance but this is crazy i just want to be able to cum and get harder erections im tired of the excuses i have to give this girl . my last relationship ended because of this as well.

    i been masturbating prone ever since i was a young kid and didnt know what masturbating was . it was probably around 5-7 years old i would laydown on my stomach andput my hand under my penis and move back and 4th did this for the longest time up until i was 23,24. i then changed my habit of prone to regular and i couldnt cum at first that way until i used a death grip.

    im losing hope i want to cure this
     
  2. It seems like you will need more than 6 days to regain sensitivity. Probably a lot more.

    After 7 or 10 days, the urges get less. You've just got to hold out, one day at a time.
     
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  3. ludwig1

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    thanks man
     
  4. GripLess

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    Yep. Its going to take a bit of time. As a guess, probably more than the standard 90 days. Could take a years, maybe 2. The amount of time it takes, in my mind, doenst matter. I know that when this process is done i will be back to normal. Tje end result is all i care about. My body will tell me when its healed. Dont rush it, dont test it and dont give up.
     
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  5. bobbybooyah

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    You also have the wrong attitude about it. If a girl doesnt make you cum its her fault not yours. Girls cant make me cum from a bj alone.... except for some who are very skilled. I mean im not in control of how good they are. Maybe grab them by the head and f their face? Or just pull out and finish by hand only a few strokes id hope she got you close. Lol
     
  6. ludwig1

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    nah one of the girl was so good even the best pornstar cant make me cum from a bj
     
  7. MarinoBigFan1984

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    You need lots of time to heal
     
  8. No.. there are obviously different skill levels, but if a woman cant make a PMO addict orgasm, most likely its because hes a PMO addict.

    @ludwig1 in answer to your question, im female but my arousal issues were sorted around 20 days. I regained proper sensitivity at around 30 days. My other half has been able to easily bring me to O with oral since day 46.
     
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  9. GripLess

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    No, you have the wrong attitude about it. Girls arent meat to be man handled like that, yes i know some of them like it. Thr fact that you think its ok to treat a women like that proves youve been watching far to much porn anf have lost all respect fir women. Maybe you should just stick with PMO instead of real women
     
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  10. Amen to that!
     
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  11. bobbybooyah

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    See bold. They all like it, wtf you mean?
     
  12. GripLess

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    They dont all like it. In fact the only ones that i know that like it are sluts that get treated like crap by guys and they think its what love is and how they should be treated. If yiu tried that with my roommate, my ex wife or a number of other women i know, youd probably get shot.
     
  13. ludwig1

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    some do like it really rough . i met a girl that liked to be punched and spit on
     
  14. GripLess

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    I have a buddy that is married to a woman that likes it really rough, but not demeaning. I can tell you that those women are fairly low i numbers. And uts damn sure not "all" of them.
     
  15. bobbybooyah

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    And thats why 50 shades of grey sold like 100 mil copies and is THREE mainstream movies. Its not the guys pushing that brand. Women really hate the idea of a man getting rough with them, obviously.
     
  16. GripLess

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    SMH, think what you want. Its not the BDSM thats sold the books or made the movies. Its the love story and respect that he has for her that supports thay story. But i can see that your a disrespectful womanizer for life.

    Maybe go to a mall and ask 1000 women if they werent giving a bj to your liking if they would be ok with being grabbed and forced like that. I would say that 90%+ will say no. Hell, go to the womens section here and ask that. Like i said before, you should just stick to porn.
     
  17. You identify his watching porn as causing a problem, then advise him to continue watching porn. That is not helpful.
     
  18. GripLess

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    If he treats women like meat, then yes. If you read what hes posted, youd see that he says he has no issues with ED or getting an erection so why is he here? In my opinion, hes full of it. He either as zero issue or isnt man enough to admit hes like the rest of us. And where im from, forcing a women yo take ykur dick down thier throat aint cool, believing that all women like it is pure BS.
     
  19. bobbybooyah

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    I dont have ed true. But i want to make a change in my life for other reasons. And i dont talk to 1000 women at the mall, i would love to say i banged 1000 women in a day but its too much even for me.