Hello, I am a 30 year old male who has been struggling with pornography for nearly 12 years. It started out of loneliness/boredom and has been an up and down (mostly down) roller coaster ride. I figured I'd give NoFap a try because I want to better my life and want to establish meaningful relationships among other things that I feel PMO has robbed me of. I feel like my 20s were stolen from me by this addiction and I am beyond tired of it. I am so glad I found this site. It seems to be a godsend for people who are going through this same situation. It is not easy for me to talk about my addiction with others, hopefully NoFap will help me open up more about it.
You are the right place at the right time.You have cleared the first stage of realising your problems and how this is affecting you.Now whenever you have urges just think about what it has taken from your life.All it takes is just will power. At NoFap you are free to share your problems and no one will judge you. Initially it is difficult for everyone but developing good habits and keeping yourself busy makes it easy.
Hey @SJ_0709 , I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me. Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much. What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode. First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals. Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals. Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational". That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community. * L PS: One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. Reading other's stories with their victories and even defeats is a big part of my program. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @C. J. Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/153580/ --- @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/ --- @weddingnails Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143418/ --- @2525 Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/150280/ --- @Visor Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/144228/ ---
Thank you everyone for welcoming me. It is good to come across a community with the same struggles as myself. I will look into all the links that you all have shared.
