Need advice on partying: please help!!!!!

Hi community,

I'm currently on Day 19 of no pmo and for the first time since December 2016 when I first heard of nofap, I'm fully 100% committed to nofap and I'll never relapse again.

But one problem I'm having is partying with friends. I'm in college and most of my friends like to party a lot but often times at college parties, the main goal is to try and get with a girl and have sex. I'm recovering from PIED/extreme femdom fetishes and only on Day 19 so I don't feel ready to go out and try to have sex already. Failing again would be a drastic hit to my confidence and I would like more time to make sure I'm 100% ready.

But I also don't want to come across as a weird guy who has no interest in girls. I feel like it would be weird for me to go to parties and not even try to get with a girl while all my friends are. And tbh, sometimes going to parties and seeing all my friends getting with girls while I'm struggling with pied makes me feel sad and depressed.

However, if I stop going to parties, I will also come across as weird and non-social and I do want to maintain my social life throughout this nofap journey. I get invited to alot of parties and it would be really awkward and unfriendly to have to make a ton of excuses to avoid all of them.

So what should I do? Should I just stop going to parties and focus on nofap? Or maybe find a way to enjoy parties without thinking about getting with girls all the time?

Parties are my one big remaining issue in rebooting and any help or advice would be very much appreciated. Thank you!

 

Lmao thank you for responding I was hoping there were at least a few people here who partied.

I partied yesterday actually and I noticed that when I'm drunk I actually don't think about nofap/pied as much as I thought I would. So I probably will continue to party to maintain my social connections to my friends but do it less often as alot of people have told me that not drinking can help your streak. Appreciate your advice.

 

Thank you this is great advice because over the past year one of my main triggers has been going to parties thinking I was healed, not getting with a girl and then my mind tricking me that "I'm not good enough for real women, only for porn" and I ended up drunk binging on porn. I've beaten this trigger now because I've written it down so many times and I lock up all my electronics before I party just in case.

Also in the future when I'm fully healed and going out regularly, I'll have to make sure to not get frustrated if I don't get with a girl every time I go out. My goal will just be get rid of PIED and be "ready" if I happen to get lucky