I can stop watching porn but I cannot quit fapping. Please give me advice.

im having the same problem man. im missing porn but miss jerking really bad. instead of thinking of the short pleasure i just keep thinking of the days and days of misery i feel afterward

 

how old are you man?

 

well don't get too down on yourself about that man. girls can be nuts. lol. Most important thing is focus on the long-term benefits, not short-term pleasure. That is a big thing that separates children from adults. Don't think about the 5 seconds of orgasm rush, think about how horrible it is after that for days and days.

 

You can try:

Take a cold shower
Regular phisical activity
Avoid to stay alone in dangerous situations
Try to keep yourself busy with other stuff

 

How bad do you want it?

 

I'm trying to put myself in your shoe's but it's been over ten years since I was your age.

I would suggest maybe going out for a run/bike ride when you get urges. Channel that MO energy in to something positive that will benefit you in the long run. As you get older you start to realize everything is a marathon, not a sprint. You have to get in shape for the long-term instead of short-term.

It might be a hard concept for you to grasp but if you can start to wrap your head around it at your age you'll be light years ahead of your peers. I wish I had realized this sooner.

Best of luck to you,

- VM

Also, I noticed you may have relapsed so check out http://emergency.nofap.org and click the "relapse" link. It works best if you don't refresh it but take what you need from it and move on.

Keep trying, keep improving and eventually you will reach your goals and be where you want to be. A lot of great advice on here to help you through it.

Stay strong.

 

There are some lifestyle changes like cold showers, exercise and meditation that help, but in the end, only iron will can stop this. You just have to convince yourself that you're never going to masturbate again. Man that decision NOW. Believe it without any doubt. It is no longer an option. You are now incapable of masturbating.

 

Good suggestio vanilla mochi. Mr never fapping again stay on ur name and pls dont fap if u want to live real life with full of energy and excitement. and abt girlfriend what u will do if u have one. u r unable to fuck her because of the side effects of fap or even u cant see her with good sight u always eager to ride on her. thats natural for fappers. so first improve urself. become a strong man after that u dont need to find girl. girls will find u.

 

That is a tough one. As I sit here typing I can tell you that in the back of my mind I have this desire to masturbate. All I can say is that you have to find someway to get your mind and hands busy with something else.

I honestly don't know if this would work but maybe try molding clay. Spend time in public. There is no way you'll fap in public so that should help.

I'm getting more into cooking as a way to keep myself from relapsing. Find something, anything, that will keep you occupied. See this time as a chance to grow as a person. You can learn new skills, explore spirituality and meditation, try pumping more iron than Schwarzenegger . The point is to stay busy and if it results in you impressing your friends with all the growth you've done, all the better.

 

You wanna know something that's more sad? I'm 26 and I've never had a girlfriend. You're just a kid; try not to be so hard on yourself. You have your whole life ahead of you. Give it some time and you will meet a girl someday. You'll never know what will happen so keep your head up. For me, dealing with girls is not a good time right now. I have some very personal goals that I must deal with. Anyways, I've been addicted to porn longer than you, so it's harder to quit. You have all the time in the world. Again, just try not to stress about it; I've been there. I know the ups and downs and I've been through worse things than you just from experience. Hang in there. I hope this gave you some encouragement. Stay strong and best of luck.

 

Try journaling a lot and listening to music when urges arrive. Music is healing and soothing. Journaling means you just write down your thoughts on paper. And keep it to yourself. The practice of writing it all down then reading it back can be very therapeutic. Stay positive and take it one day at a time. Exercise or find something you feel you'd be passionate about doing and go for it.

 

I think for you and all the other teens going through puberty, this is understandably difficult. But there are some practical things that may help you.

I suggest that you make a second counter. The first one might be 'X hours since I last edged or MO'. The second could be 'X hours since I last watched porn'. That would mean that you would at least have the satisfaction of seeing the days and weeks go by on the second counter. On the first counter I would also say yes when asked: "Do you want tick marks that track your progress on a daily basis?" That will help you see how you are slowly making progress by masturbating less often. Look after yourself mate.

 

Ok this is something that bugs the hell out of me, pardon my language. Our culture stresses the idea that you are either a looser or winner based on how many people you have dated and how many sex partners you have had.

Prior to meeting my wife I had only ONE date, it was a disaster. Marie, my wife, and I met when I was 25, almost 26. She is the ONLY person I have ever been in a relationship with and the ONLY person I have had sex with. Do I feel like I missed out? No! In fact I feel that it was good for me to go all those years without being with anyone because when love came knocking, I was able to recognize it and I embraced it.

Mind you, I am not saying to hold off from going on dates or anything like that. I'm just saying don't beat yourself up.

Sorry for deviating from the focus of the thread. I just couldn't sit by and not say something when someone is beating them self up because of some stupid cultural construct that should be banished from our lives.

That said. NeverFappingAgain, doctors will tell you masturbation is part of puberty and us healthy. And while it does give you knowledge of what feels good to you, which is handy when you do have sex, you have to be mindful of how much you are fapping to avoid addiction. Clearly you think you are fapping to much, I admire you for noticing this at such a young age. I wish I had been able to do what you have because I got addicted at around your age.

As I said before you need to keep yourself busy. IGY's suggestion is a great one since moral is key to breaking any addiction. What might be a great thing for you is to volunteer the majority of your free time to work for a charity. It will keep you busy and in an environment where you cannot fap, while also providing you with something to put on your resume. Employers love to see volunteer work on resumes.

Good luck, stay strong.

 

You absolutely must watch Mark's videos (Sacred Sexuality Project). This guy is a success and is porn free and is now married. Here is one of my fav videos, watch them all! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yVw6nQikLF8&list=UU6gyVlwXwtqkn4KLjx3nDHg