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Mark Salling - Puck from Glee, found dead.

Discussion in 'Off-topic Discussion' started by Learn_Study, Jan 30, 2018.

  1. Jan 30, 2018 #1
    Learn_Study

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  2. Jan 30, 2018 #2
    Tryingto

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    I just found out about this. Decided to come here in order to see if a thread had opened up. Thanks for getting this started, @Learn_Study.

    Salling's story has bubbled away at the edge of my awareness ever since his arrest. I am familiar with Glee, of course. I am even more familiar with sex addiction. I know, for instance, how dangerously progressive the addiction is. I also know how easy it is to make 'one more click' and end up in some shadowy places.

    Because of this, Salling's travails have served as a cautionary tale for myself. With every step in his journey I have thought, 'This could be me.' To be clear, it isn't me. But given the progressive trajectory of addiction, it could be. This is one of many scary aspects of being 'hooked': It is possible. Going where one shouldn't. Getting ill or harmed or robbed as a result of this. Harming others as a result of this. Encountering the law. Losing family, friends, and livelihood. And now, Mark Salling is dead.

    I have been struggling lately. After a record sixty-some days clean of pmo (including porn substitutes), I relapsed and find myself working really hard to stay on the wagon. The logic of addiction is so strong, so compelling. 'It's the only answer'; 'I'm a loser and have to act out' - this sort of thing. May the life and now death of Mr Salling continue to offer caution and motivation. May all involved, all affected by this find healing and recovery. And may the presence of this horrible addiction lessen in this world...
     
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  3. Jan 30, 2018 #3
    Learn_Study

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    Many here have said they were " close " to doing something illegal because of porn. Others refuse to say, because they have done illegal things. I myself, almost stole a skin mag at a news stand. At the last minute, I paid for it.... the point being... I was willimg to risk my reputatuon and family name for a jack off session.

    I was lucky. Many others are not as fortunate as me.

    Mr. Salling had a very rough road ahead of him, no.denying that. I would have loved to see him be a comeback story. Someone who could have brought this horrible addiction to the forefront.

    I do hope his story and memory saves someone from the addiction he suffered from.
     
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  4. Jan 31, 2018 #4
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    Nothing makes me more enraged or feel more despair for the world than the way we treat terrible acts as the result of some inexplicable, isolated, random evilness in the person. People can't bear to face the fact that it could easily be them, or their sibling, or their friend, given the wrong circumstances. So we cut all ties connecting us to them. "They did that because they're a terrible person", "they're nothing like me because they're evil", whatever that means. We don't hear these stories and try to address the cause because that would dissolve the imaginary barriers we've put up to separate them from us. So we just throw our hands up and act like there's nothing that can be done.

    If any of these terrible acts being committed in the world are going to be truly stopped society is going to have to wake up and acknowledge that people committing them is a reflection of it's own failure.
     
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  5. Jan 31, 2018 #5
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    Agreed.

    I hope if I ever fail, to the extreme... someone, anyone, would stil be my friend.

    I personally reached out and befriended a classmate bank teller who essentially robbed her bank. - i opened my house and my couch to a married friend who had an affair with a 17yr old ( he persinally paid for that mistake, dearly )

    The point being, most everyone shunned these two. They both thought about suicide. I couldnt let that happen.

    I dont know who mr salling had in his life. I dont know who could have helped. Yes, what he did was bad ... but who is talking about how he got there ? Who is talking about how half the nation screams and shuns the " religious " other half and thereby protecting all the smut in Hollywood as " free speech " and " artistic expression ".

    We know the P shit leads to problems, we know it can alter behavior, we know it can lead to illegal activity, we see it on tv, in movies, in magazines, in video games... all for free, yet it flows, unchecked.

    Am I wrong in saying P ,by far is the least regulated, of any mind / body / lifestyle / mental health, life altering addiction in the world today ?

    The world wants porn, fine, have it, but dint make it free so 12yr olds can surf it for hours everyday.. slap a damn label on it and start teaching about it in health classes,.
     
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