I feel your pain. Relapsed over 10 times now, highest is 18 days. Only got to 15 twice of those 10. I know what my problem is though. Sleep. I keep staying up so late and having trouble sleeping and that ends up being my downfall. I also need to consider eliminating triggers like instagram. Another thing that's tough is not touching it when you get random wood. Toughest addiction this thing. But I have to do this. Today I seen a girl at her work I use to date that I couldn't bang and it was a reminder to fucken deal with this. It was hard seeing that face again.... :/
As a recovered alcoholic (yes, recovered not recovering. Pm me if you have questions) there is a number of things in common with the 2. First off, you have to want to quit. If you dont WANT it deep down, it wont happen. Second, you have to identify your triggers and either eliminate them or avoid them at all cost. 3rd, find a substitute. Meaning find something that you can do when the urges hit. Avoid alone time is possible. For some of us it really is as easy as "just stop". Others are not so lucky. I cant say any of these are going to be your ah ha moment or suggestion. But the first is the most important.
No way to answer you except to say just dont do it. Will power and negativity on it is not enough. Not doing it removes somethign you have wired into your brain and body maybe for years. If you think just not doing it is enough, you are fooling yourself. FIND OUT WHY YOU DO IT Face the demon that drives you to porn, face not just is wrong with that, but what you should replace it with, that is scary but it is the only way. DO NOT EXPECT TO FEEL GOOD AND HEALED IN 20 days. It should take your body 90 days or more to just get healed of the addictive aspects of it, even if you do everything right. Do not expect to feel good. You mangled your body, life, and mind this way,. You messed up other parts of your life. You put work into getting messed up. Do not expect that to wear off because you stop, not for 20 or even 30 days. You have to fill the holes in your life that you are fleeing into pornography from, You have to fix the other things that are messed up, and I bet a lot is messed up. You have to repair your problems relating with people and with the opposite sex. That is a lot of work, Don't get pissed at it because the heavens do not open in 20 days or you dont feel so good in 20 days. you spent a long time messing yourself up. It was easy to mess yourself up there is a big huge porn industry all kinds of sexploitation going on in every form of advertising and television and movie and clothes. It is easy to slide into the slop[ and poison. The hard thing is to fix yourself. You have to learn how to be a person who is not getting juiced on porn and masturbation. Do not expect to feel anything but confused and still messed up after 20 days. Give yourself longer much longer and work not just on not fapping, but on fixing yourself without it
Usually my relapses happen when I'm just laying in my bed having nothing to do. My solution for that is just going to bed to sleep and nothing else. To say it on a general level, you should find and avoid any triggers for relapses. Good luck!
realize that it is like being thrown in the ocean, you are swimming and staying alive fighting the sharks and then you get on the lifeboat. You are not going to write great poems or cure cancer on the lifeboat, you are just holding on until your body can fight the fap and your mind too. count the time and money you put into this poison, and then realize an equal effort is needed to get it off. Love yourself to say that right now you need to shelter your self fromthinks that can hurt and you hold on
