Hello Everyone, I am a 24 year old male who has masturbated since middle school. The habit/addition was pretty constant in high school and college. It got to the point of masturbating everyday and sometimes twice a day. Currently I turn to it when I'm stressed, feeling lonely or see someone attractive that leads to having sexual thoughts. This happens on a weekly basis. I am currently in a relationship and am too embarrassed and ashamed about this to discuss it with my partner and to seek in person help. I would like to cut this habit of falling back to it. I would also like to note I am a Christian and this struggle hits hard in the heart. I hope this community can provide me the support I need and that I may give something back in return. With thanks,
Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you. The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?
Hey @Andy Kelly , Welcome to NoFap! You are in the right place. My experience here is that I needed to: 1. Learn the NoFap program. 2. Get involved with the community. The best resource I found was the “Getting Started with NoFap” guide. It is on the NoFap homepage and you can download it for free from this link https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ Then, watch this video: It is really good and explains so much about how the blasting of porn images into the brain in high definition on high speed internet while slamming porn sounds into the ears with headphones can literally change the way your brain demands sexual stimulation. The video explains it better than I can. Also, a great page is https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-users-list-of-rebooting-resources.50878/ my experience is that by reading every link and watching every video, I learned so much. Then, I got involved with the community. I'm not anyone special on here, I don't have any magic powers. But, I can say hello to new members, post my journal entries, remember to “like” peoples posts, and offer my experience, strength and hope where appropriate. Looking forward to seeing you around on the forums, * L PS - Think of pmo like a wolf. Stay near the center of the group with the winners and the wolf has a more difficult time finding you. But, stray near the edges of the community and the wolf can pick you off.
For me NoFap is 1/2 program & 1/2 fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles: @DavidGibson @SteelshoT @Jewels @reystronaut @2525 @weddingnails @PatrickR @Beamer @Arohamystic @MLMVSS @Rising Sun !! @Ready to be healthy @Brahmacharin @Struggle Bug @tet2vd @Satchi @BigDawg913 @zakes @LilD @kropo82 Take a look at who they are exchanging messages. You will find more profiles. So, if you would have found more profiles yourself, why suggest these particular ones as a start? My experience is that the glue that holds this community together is cemented in my having found support from other members. Those relationships started with just saying hello. So, my ESH is that saying hello has kept the fellowship alive for myself. Looking forward to your success and in seeing you say hello on these profiles, * L
One of the ways I got involved with the fellowship was by reading some really great journals. I've included journals from all age groups, spiritual members, religious members, secular members, male and female. You should find journals that help. If not, look around, there are hundreds of others from which to choose. When I say "it works if you work it", reading journals is part of that work. Once you open a journal, click "Watch Thread" in the upper right of the page to get alerts when new posts are made. Here are just a few: @julianstone Journals at https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146584/ --- @HerculesStop Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/140098/ --- @EdwarDG Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/151107/ --- @zakes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/149243/ --- @DavidGibson Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143325/ --- @Euklid Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/146663/ --- @LilD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/147764/ --- @BreatheDeeply Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139097/ --- @LiquidShoes Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/134044/ --- @Reverent Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/143845/ --- @Former_CD Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/87827/ --- @PatrickR Journals at: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/139570/ --- There are many more, and you can discover them on your own. But, these are great places to start. This is a work in progress. So, if a journal has changed or is no longer active, look around there are some amazing journals on here. * L
Welcome my brother in Christ. Great to see you have taken this step to fight the monster! HERE are some things helping me.
Well sadly I have relapsed today. But usually distracting myself with other non PMO media. Or if I'm really busy just with work life or other personal matters, I am much less inclined to fall to the temptations. Sometimes a ton of physical exercise works (but alot more than my usual work out requirements).
